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writes:I've always wondered when girls say they've never orgasmed through masturbation or sex. Does it mean they haven't orgasmed through clitoral stimulation? Or G-spot?I'm just confused 'cause I can easily orgasm through clitoral stimulation by myself, and that can't be incredibly rare for other girls, but I always see girls saying they've never had an orgasm. Does the clit just not count or something? Or is g-spot stimulation the only real orgasm?
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (1 July 2009):
 Yeah, It means they just haven't had one. It took me awhile because I guess I had some psychological blocks and it took being with the same partner for over a year practicing all the time before it finally happened! Staying with the same person and also not switching up positions (guys like to do this) will help. Sadly, most girls in this age group will "fake" orgasms and never really learn anything from that.
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reader, q1605 +, writes (1 July 2009):
 Sorry girls. I think the poster's real question is up front. Not on the back end. Women say they have never had an orgasm because they have never had an orgasm. G spot or clitoral. I can not fathom sex without an orgasm at least 99.999999999999 percent of the time but there are women that never have had one ever. Or they say they think they did. Which in my book means you didn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI didn't mean to judge girls and their views on orgasms, if that's what it sounded like. I was just a little confused with what the social norm was for qualifying an orgasm I guess.
"I've never had an orgasm" to me sounds weird 'cause clit stimulation is easy enough, so I was doubting if I was comprehending the statement right. But looking back, I guess it did take me a while to actually reach the orgasm point. I thought I was just odd though, irony.
The question they generated is a little misleading too...
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reader, satindesire +, writes (30 June 2009):
 The reasons why these girls say they have never reached orgasm even with masturbation is generally through not being patient enough, ignorance of their anatomy (some girls actually don't know what or where their clitoris is!), not enough stimulation, shyness, emotional blocks, guilt, and other various factors.
I actually didn't have my first orgasm til I was 20, because no matter how hard myself or my sexual partners tried, I just could not pop! Finally, I bought myself a vibrator and now I'm able to reach orgasm whenever I use them. Fingers, tongue, and other things simply aren't enough stimulation for me.
It's more common than you think.
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reader, Tisha-1 + ♥, writes (30 June 2009):
 The clit is analogous to the penis in males: it's formed from the same starting cells in the embryo. As for the famed G-spot, there isn't a definite consensus among the experts. Some think it is a discrete area within the vagina, others are of the opinion that it corresponds to the "root" of the clitoris.
The thing to keep in mind is there's no point in judging orgasms. Which one is "better" or "real" or really "counts" is a question that has caused more grief and worry than this subject deserves. What works for you? Well, THAT'S a good orgasm. Why do we need to qualify the orgasm?
Freud has a lot to answer for. I thought psychiatrists were supposed to HELP people, not create complexes!
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reader, girl79  +, writes (30 June 2009):
Clitoral stimulation definitely is more easily acheived either by yourself or by your partner therefore is the most common kind of orgasm. I don't think that a G-Spot orgasm is the only kind of orgasm but it definitely is much more intense and a sensation unlike any other, provided you can acheive one. It takes either alot of practice or a very skilled lover. Either way true pleasure is whatever makes you as an individual feel good and leaves you satisfied.
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (30 June 2009):
Having an orgasm through clitoral stimulation is easy and that's why most females can do it. A vaginal orgasm, for those that have them, are often more intense and require a lot of practice- it's an acquired skill. Most of the girls I knew in highschool and through my 20's only had clitoral orgasms (foreplay) and now that I'm in my 30's, every woman I know of in my age group and above is actually able to orgasm through intercourse. Well, except for one because she doesn't like sex that much. Some women never do, maybe they were just born that way but can supplement sex with toys or whatnot.
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reader, Olivia(Y).  +, writes (30 June 2009):
 An orgasm comming from clitoral stimulation is a "real orgasm".
The g-spot orgasm is a different kind of orgasm comming from the inside of the body which is normally a more powerfull orgasm than a clitioral oragasm.
Some woman can't have g-spot orgasms though.
If someone says they have never had an orgasm then they mean they have never had an orgasm.
Livia
xoxox
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2009): An orgasm can be acheived in many ways and it is different for each girl. Personally I find that on my own I perfer clitoral stimulation but when I am with my boyfriend I have a much more powerful orgasm through G-dpot stimulation. Some girls can even orgasm by simply having their breasts stimulated, the best orgasms are acheived by what turns you on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2009): Actually you have it backwards. It's very rare to have an orgasm without some kind of clitoral stimulation, regardless of whether it is a fully clitoral or what is considered a G spot orgasm. Some people say G spot orgasms are better or that they can't achieve orgasm without some G spot stimulation, but some also can't stand any sort of G spot anything or it simply feels strange or like nothing.
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