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Is "Dry Sex" okay? I don't want to get pregnant!

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Question - (19 March 2008) 15 Answers - (Newest, 18 May 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Im 12 years Old and me and my bf have been dating for 2 years and we want sex i dont want to get pregnant so if we did have sex we would have dry sex would that be ok ??

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008):

NO!

sex for a 12 year old girl is never ok!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008):

dear person

im also in your situation and am 12 years old

i think you should really consider this as you can be pregnant search it up if you don't believe me

so its your choice but i would think about it if i was you.

from mystery person

(female)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008):

my dear what do u mean by dry sex? I think that there is nothing like dry sex, erection in men comes with sperms which is obviosly wet. however to play it safe at your age, i will abstainance or better still condom use.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008):

dry sex is fine if you don't want to get pregnant, but as long as your clothes remain on or or undies remain on, so there is no genital fluid contact.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008):

sex is sex atleast u are smart enough to ask i had dry sex at age 11 and got pregant now 13 i have 2 year old twin i love them but it is so hard DONT DO IT dont go further then kissing hugging humping makeout or fingering

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A male reader, LazyGuy Netherlands +, writes (21 March 2008):

LazyGuy agony auntA bit of confusion in the answers as to what dry sex is.

Well, there are two meanings, one I never heard of before and the other what she is probably refering to as it is a common enough concept especially around younger people.

First the new one. Dry sex is the practive of 'drying' the vagina supposedly for increased friction. Aparently it is a thing they do it in north africa. Not enough lubrication can cause wounds and that is offcourse not safe.

What the poster was probably talking about is "sex" with the clothes ON. So not sex at all, more advanced dirty dancing till one or both reach orgasm.

It is closer to masturbation and can be very erotic. She is a bit young, but all kids mature at different ages. We called it making out in our times.

Yes, if you are fully clothed then chances of getting pregnant are remote. Sperm doesn't last long outside the body and dies when it dries so even if gets on your clothes it would most likely die from the clothes soaking up the moisture.

Just take it slow okay, don't be to much in a rush to be an adult.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008):

you can still get pregnant through dry sex, cos his semen(cum) na still get through your pants and into you.

if you really want to have sex then use a condom or go on the pill (preferably both).

whatever you do, make sure that youre ready for sex before you go any further.

if you decide to have sex then be careful and enjoy it.

have fun hunny.

x-x

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A female reader, yeahsureyoubetcha United States +, writes (20 March 2008):

yeahsureyoubetcha agony auntIf you want to be safe then dry sex with him wearing a condom would as safe as possible. No matter what method you use there is always a chance. No birth control is 100% effective.

Are you sure you are ready?

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A female reader, michellesays United Kingdom +, writes (19 March 2008):

im really shocked that girls are tinking about having sex at this very young age.do they not teach you in school what sort of problems that this can cause you in later life cervical cancer where your body is mature enough to be involved in sexual relationships. which can lead to lots of other problems too.if your boyfreind and you have waited this long surely you can wait untill your more mature to deal with the physical and emotional sides of a sexual relationship.look up the risks on your computer of having sexul relations so young.

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A female reader, lil miss blond3 her answerin ur questions United Kingdom +, writes (19 March 2008):

lil miss blond3 her answerin ur questions agony auntHiya, well I'm 12 so I know where your coming from and it's a bad idea having sex anyway most lads at our age don't think right yet and your only 12 so you could be having fun with your mates at this age and not pretending you're older. Our age is for fun, sex is for 16's and over. Hope I helped xx and if I was you I wouldn't have sex.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008):

Slight correction to advice given by Annalise....you can go on the pill at any age. You don't need to be over the age of consent. Your parents do not need to know. If you go to a family planning centre or to your GP they are perfectly able to prescribe any type of contraception whatever your age and (unless they believe you to be at risk of abuse or a danger to yourself) they will not tell your parents.

However, whether that is something you want to do at such a young age is another matter!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008):

Dry sex isnt using a condom, its keping your panties on and lying on top of eachother and moving like you are having sex.

And basically, you wont get pregnant. BUt do be careful, if your bf comes on your panties theres a very very tiny risk that you could get pregnant. Best way is to have dry sex for a while, to get turned on, and kiss and things, and then to finish eachother off my hand, and wash your hands before you touch your private parts.

Just wanted to say congrats on being together so long, but you are both young ( i hope he is too!!)

so need to rush anything:-D

hope this helps hunni!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008):

What do you mean by dry sex? Does that mean without penetration (penis in vagina). You will not get pregnant that way if that's what you mean. However doing it that way will very much make you want to go further so it's probably not a good idea. Also you can also get STDs that way. I know you don't want to hear this, but you are only 12 years old and although you feel like a grown up, you're not. 2 years of dating doesn't really mean much since you've been in a relationship since you were 10. You were a child then and you are a child now. That's hard to hear. Believe me I know. But that's how you're seen under the law. So please make sure you are fully educated about sex before you choose to engage in it. Keep in mind, it's also illegal for children to have sex. Like the previous poster said, you're boyfriend can go to jail or even worse be labeled as a sex offender for the rest of his life whether you get pregnant or not. So if you care about him, then you should take that into consideration. Trust me, he's not thinking with his head. His thinking is coming from below his belt so it's up to you to be the more mature one. Women by nature are a bit more mature at that age. LOL. But to answer your question, if by dry sex you mean just rubbing and stuff without him actually entering you then no you shouldn't get pregnant. But like I said, that doesn't protect you from diseases and doing so will likely make you want to do more. Be careful. Kissing and petting is fun and you really should just keep it at that.

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A male reader, agtorange United States +, writes (19 March 2008):

agtorange agony auntMizz is right, sex is sex, even with a condom you can still get pregnant, but if you do decide to make a really bad choice and have sex at 12 make sure you use protection.

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A female reader, mizzbrannon United States +, writes (19 March 2008):

no it doesnt matter wht kinda sex it is you can still get pregnant. the only way to be sure youre not going to get pregnant is to use a CONDOM.you really shouldnt be having sex n e ways because you are only 12

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