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Is boyfriend unhappy because I haven't touched him the way he touches me?

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Question - (1 November 2015) 3 Answers - (Newest, 19 November 2015)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

my bf has fingered me and thats about as far as our relationship has gotten too but i find it hard to cum...and im worried he isnt satisfied because i havent touched him in that way..

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2015):

I agree with what the ladies told you already, BUT...

If you do enjoy his fingering you-- are you able to cum on your own? If you are, then maybe you need to tell him what you like. If you can't cum on your own, then maybe your body just isn't quite ready.

Best of luck!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (1 November 2015):

Honeypie agony auntI think if you get nothing out of him "fingering" you, then WHY do it? Because HE wants to put his fingers in you?

And if you aren't ready to touch HIM in "that" way then tell him.

And I SO agree with Ivy here, IF you can't talk to him about these sexual things, you shouldn't be DOING these things.

A HUGE part of a good relationship is the ability to TALK about yourselves, each other, feelings, experiences etc.

My guess is you don't know how to tell him that you don't REALLY want his fingers in your knickers. And you don't REALLY want to touch his penis in a sexual way, at least not yet. AND that is OK! but you need to tell him. You need to be able to talk to each other.

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A female reader, Ivyblue Australia +, writes (1 November 2015):

Ivyblue agony auntEnjoyment and sexual satisfaction is a two way street. But if you are not comfortable or a bit in experienced ,so hope so at your age, then you should be talking with your bf. He, like you is not a mind reader so talking about these things are important. my rule of thumb is if you can't talk about these things then perhaps you need to be a bit more mature to be engaging in them. Like I said before its a two way street, but that is not saying that you should be pressured,and vice verca,into doing anything you are not ready and willing to do. If you are made to feel like that in anyway then that is not what a happy and healthy relationship looks like.

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