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writes:I'm 33 years old, my ex is 23. We were together for four years and recently she did a Jekyll and Hyde type switcharoo on me at the start of her senior year (5th year; she took a sabbatical) In October she asked for space and then disappeared. I let her go. We spoke once and then I emailed again in January asking for the closure she never provided. Can someone explain the psychology behind her behavior? When we eventually spoke about things she cited excuses and not reasons. Are these epiphanies possible?She told me to move on and that I'll always hold a place in her heart (cliches). We tried the friend thing but it's just too hard for me. I don't expect to hear from her again and I don't think I'm going to call her either. Now I'm only wondering/hoping about the future, which of course I know is a temporary feeling right now. But can I really be completely out of her thoughts in the event she's seeing (which I suspect) a guy at her school?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): Either shes seeing a new person.her family has some words in the sichuasion,or her friends are telling her its a bad idea.In any case shes 23 and made her own decision in the end and I don't think anything that you say will change the out come of this chaos that was made.And also may be you should date some one closer to your age 26 or 28 I'd sugest,if you wont kids.Shred anything that ties you to her,and delete her # from your phone and slowly you'll forget about her sure you'll think back on her on an acasion but nothing like it is now.Seasons change and you'll change to in time and grow from your experiances and this is just one of the many to come.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): I am sorry for your pain! I don't think age is that much of a factor. The same thing can happen with couples who are the same age.
You will get over this eventually and life goes on! The pain, however temporary, is real. It will pass! Get out and enjoy yourself! She has moved on. You mustn't spend your time dwelling on her. It only makes it worse!
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reader, kllgunner +, writes (1 March 2009):
 you just have to get over it at least she broke up with you instead of cheating on you you should be happy about that sry dude ur out of luck move on
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