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female
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16-17,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 3 months and he's my first proper boyfriend. I'm almost 17 and he's almost 18. We haven't had sex yet and we're both virgins. I don't feel ready for sex yet but nearly all of my friends have had sex and I'm starting to feel a bit pressured. One of my friends was really pushing me to have sex with my boyfriend recently but I told her to stop it as I'm not ready and she hasn't mentioned it since. We still live with our parents and I don't feel comfortable having sex in my parents house and he doesn't get on with his family so we never go over there. He will be getting a flat around december but by then we will have been going out 8 months. Is 8 months too long to wait to have sex? My other friends waited 2 months and some less.I'm not bothered about the waiting but I'm worried that people will start to be all weird towards me because of it.Any advice? Thanks.
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reader, marmajuke +, writes (30 June 2008):
 wait until you are ready, its your body dont get pressured into doing things you are not ready for!! and if your boyfriend is a keeper he will respect your wants... hope that helps a bit...x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): you seem soo sweet, being a girl your age my best advice is to just see what happends theres no limit on when to have sex or not! I wouldnt make plans on both having sex as soon as he gets a flat. You may be ready sooner or later and surely you have an empty house at some point. wait till thre time is right. I know its easier said than done but its your choice not your friends'!
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reader, mimo  +, writes (30 June 2008):
 my bf and i waited a year and 4 months........
so trust me, it just is completely up to you! and if hes good enough of a bf like mine was, he will understand
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reader, scrazy + ♥, writes (30 June 2008):
 You don't have to set a time limit where, once you reach it,you and your boyfriend have to have sex.
This is a personal decision and if you (or your boyfriend) don't feel ready, then you don't have to go through with it - don't let your friends pressure you into doing something you're unsure of and might possibly, regret after.
In my opinion, wait as long as you want to have sex. It's none of your friends business if you're getting it on or not.
Hope this helps!
xo
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reader, twisted  + ♥, writes (29 June 2008):
 Everyone else around you won't be in that bedroom with you, feeling what you are feeling. When you're ready, you'll know, wait it out.
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reader, Hopeful4evaxx +, writes (29 June 2008):
 You have every right to wait. Never feel pressurised to have sex if your not ready because you will regret it in the long run. Trust me, i know from experience. I truly respest you for waiting until your both ready. It will make it even more special when it happens. Just do whats best for you, its your body and your life. Dont do things because other people want you to. xx whatever happens do it for you and your partner, its you two in the relationship not anyone else. xx
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reader, sofiamorgan +, writes (29 June 2008):
 I applaud and respect you for standing by your moral and your beliefs. It is completely up to you what you and when you do it. Do NOT let anyone iflunence your actions, you are your own person.
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reader, soulcal +, writes (29 June 2008):
 DONT! listen to what other people think if they keep pressuring you just tell them to stop and you will do it in your own time.
8 months isnt too long too wait people go on for longer. its best and you will enjoy it more when your both ready and are in a safe and nice enviroment to have sex.
i hope this helps! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): You can't go through life worrying what other people think, do what YOU feel is right. I don't care when my freinds sleep with their b/f, how is it any of my buisness anyway? Know what I mean
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (29 June 2008):
 your right for waiting hun, you obviously both have alot of respect and love for eachother. wat business is it of your friends whether you have sex yet or not? its not their relationship, and if they do act weird towards you then they are obviously not real friends. you should stick to your guns and wait until you are both ready. wat you two have is more important and special than wat your friends have. dont let them pressure you hun, its not fair, its childish and it shouldnt bother them whether you have sex or not - why are they so interested? stand you ground and you will come out laughing - and you will cherish your first time more than your friends will. if you wanna talk more just email me hun good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): It doesn't matter how long it takes as long as you and him are both ready. I waited around that long to wait to have sex with my boyfriend (we were both virgins like you are) and I understand you. I'm so glad you didn't hear your friend's advise on having sex with him and really don't try to feel pressured by your friends. The only thing that matters is how you and your boyfriend feel about the situation. In my opinion, waiting longer than 5 months to have sex with someone shows that the relationship is more than physical and more deep, but again, this is just my opinion.
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