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*Jacobs
writes:Hey guys, im going to start school again in a few days and would like some relationship advice. I had my first girlfriend last year and really liked her but we broke up because she liked this other guy. Anyways Since then i find that i cant really be myself with any of my other girlfriends which leads to a break up and it just gets worse and worse. I give advice on here all the time to be yourself and what not but when it come to my own problems i just cant seem to do it. I gues i either give bad advice or im just an insecure idiot. Anyways if someone could help me out of this funk im in i would appreciate it. Thanks for reading and any answers!
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (29 August 2011):
 What you have to realize is that when you start a new relationship your old gf doesn't play a part in it. You should only take with you the positive things you have learned from the past relationships and start fresh with someone. When you meet a girl that you are interested tell yourself and make sure you beleive it that your ex doesn't have influence on this girls behaviour. There is nothing saying that she is predisposed to leave you for another guy or anything of the sort.
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reader, FLIPPER66 +, writes (29 August 2011):
 to be honest it sounds as though your basing your self worth on this 1st gf's actions and in that your giving her power over your life. yet she's technically not in it but yet your allowing her to control your feelings. your still in high school , i've long sinced left that many moons ago in the 1960's yeah i'm that old. LOL each girl you may date should be an new adventure with new excitements with each. do not let this 1st gf's memories destroy any more new relationships most likely she'll never be back with you ever again. if need be take something symbolic that represents her (old pictures of you and her , something she may have given you or a shirt or jacket you let her wear ) put them in a box and hold a symbolic funeral (meaning she's dead to you) and bury them somewhere that might mnake it extremely difficult to find again. true this is only symbolic but it does say to your subconscience mind it time to move on.
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