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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid, Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now and we haven't been sexually active. We are both virgins and plan on having sex together soon. My problem is, since I've never had sex, I dont know much about it. So I want to know what the female feels during the process and why.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): Well honey it's probably going to be a little uncomfortable - some girls experience pain, some don't. Personally, I felt no pain, but everyone is different. It's important to just relax yourself and not worry about it, thinking "I'm gonna have sex! I'm gonna have sex!" because that will just get you worked up! So calm down and I'm sure he will take it easy with you, as you're both virgins and he'll understand you'll be nervous. But be patient with him too, and remember, lots of foreplay! Oral, fingering, hand jobs... Just touching and teasing each other. Never do anything unless you're totally comfortable with it okay honey. Good luck :]
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (25 May 2008):
 Hello,
For me, my first time was super painful. Luckily, I have a very sweet, very considerate, and VERY PATIENT boyfriend. It ended up taking exactly one month to be successful - he just couldn't fit in until then! It was okay though, because we were just so comfortable with each other and having fun along the way - so all though it was awkward, it was still exciting.
It didn't feel great until a couple of weeks after we finally had success. Then it started to feel great and I started to enjoy myself.
It was best because we had both gotten checked before and I had already started my birth control - so I had no worries at all. BE SAFE!!
Enjoy, sweetness.
xx India
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reader, Emaz help  +, writes (24 May 2008):
 I personally don't think it's that great
But i have only been with one person and was quite dissapointed!
It hurts a bit but only to start off with so tell him to be gentle
It may be a bit awkward and clumsy but it will get better and easier
After you've done it once it still may hurt a few more times
Use lots of lube to make it easier!
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reader, :):):) +, writes (24 May 2008):
Firstly well done for waiting till your in a happy relationship,now for the techincal side of things...
The first time isnt likely to be great and can be a bit uncomfortable but with more practise and time it definitly improves!
Its pretty difficult to describe it with words exactly and Im sure it isnt the same for everyone. Make sure you both take your time and relax and dont forget to use protection!
Good luck
xx
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