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female
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16-17,
anonymous
writes:I'm getting scared that the guy I'm seeing (Bill), might get uninterested in me because we can't find anything to talk about when texting. When we see each other in person, we can find things to talk about easily, and sometimes are just silent because we enojy each other's company.Bill texts instead of talking on the phone, so I find it hard to find things to talk about while texting. I have suggested we talk on the phone a few times, but it always ended up with me agreeing that he didn't have to. Don't get me wrong, he's a great guy and would do anything for me (as I for him).But I'm just having trouble communicating with Bill while texting because I don't hear his emotions. Please help?
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reader, satindesire +, writes (28 September 2009):
 Some people aren't good on the phone, myself and my husband are like that. Even when he travels out of state for work, we rarely talk on the phone...simply because it's not something we really enjoy. Filling the time with unnecessary and forced conversation is awkward.
There is nothing wrong with not talking all the time. Not everyone has to talk on the phone, or text, in order to like each other.
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reader, Artistry + ♥, writes (28 September 2009):
 Hi there, For one thing, if it were the other way around I think I would be worried. But since the two of you have no problem conversing in person, I would not worry about it, you should be fine in the future. What I would do with his text messages is to concentrate on his words, what is he saying, and whatever that is, take the conversation on from there. If he asks a question, answer it, but add your own question on the back of his question. If he makes a statement, you add your opinion to it to continue the conversation, then after you finish what you think, ask him what his thoughts are on the same subject. Find areas of discussion that you would like to know more about, what sport does he like? Let him tell you something about it. Build your categories of interest by reading magazines and some newspapers, a visit to your nearest library will give you all the material you need. It is a way for you to grow as well. You will find many things to talk about, but think of things before you text him or he texts you. Write things down if you need to, refer to your notes if you need to. In a little while your text messaging will become easier and you will keep the conversation going. He is interested in you and he will be there, don't fret. Take care. Stay in touch.
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reader, sunnycomet  + ♥, writes (28 September 2009):
 Explain to him how you feel. Tell him you like to hear his voice. It is not to much to ask for him to talk to you on the phone. Though it could be it is easier for him to text you and make him nervous to talk to you on the phone. Try and work something out.
Good Luck!
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