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writes:I am miserable and need to find a way to resolve something that I brought on myself. I'm married and have 3 teenage kids but I'm bisexual and my hubby knows. I've been married 22 years and I'm not divorced but my hubby and I don't live together but we still have a good relationship because we still love each other and for our kids. He knows I date women. I met a woman and I fell in love with her but I never told her because I never told her I was still married and occassionally having sex with my husband. I didn't know how to tell her and thought things might be too complicated so I pretended I didn't care about her to get her to go away. The problem is I can't pull myself together because I love her and I know she's hurting now because I don't acknowldege any of her attempts to talk to me. This has been going on 7 months. I want her in my life and my hubby is attracted to her to. I don't know if she's bi and if she is would she want to be a part of my marriage. I am at a complete loss. What should I do? Please direct me. Thanx
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reader, lilly123  +, writes (6 November 2010):
 your being selfish here and you have to decide who you want once and for all! its unfair of you to ask her that and its unfair to hurt her like you have so you have to tell her the truth,if you love her like you say you do then you would have enough respect for her to not ask her to share you.you have decide what you want and to tell her the truth because she deserves it
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): what youre doing is totally unfair.. if you and your husband have an 'open relationship' so to speak then that's your arrangement and whatever you both decide is up to you. but to string someone along and keep the truth from somebody who clearly has feelings for you? disrespectful. come clean. you might lose her, and i wouldnt blame her if she turns you down, but its better than to keep on lying to her.
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