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*hw473
writes:I've been best friends with a lad in my class since we were 3. last year, e became so much closer. He help me dump my boyfriend and a week later. asked me out. We were really close. We wet for walks along the beach evry weekend and we used to go to the cinema often. It got to 2 months and he invited me to his aunties 40th so i went. for the whole time i was there, he ignored me. he kept on leaving me and i could tell there was something wrong. well the next day was the day before day 1 of year9. we were on msn and he broke up with me. he said we were better as friends. i was so heartbroken. And it turns out that a week later, he kissed a girl at somebodies sleepover and she was the only reason he dumped me. for her! I couldn't face him, i avoided him for a few days and then he confronted me, saying there was no need to be jealous. their relationship lasted for 2 days. ours lasted for 2 months and he didn't even kiss me!i suffered in silence, and now i've realised i'm still in love with him, we're not even really close friends anymore, just friends. What should I do??
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reader, mhw473 +, writes (16 January 2009):
mhw473 is verified as being by the original poster of the question well i posted this question nearly a year ago and nothings changed. he says were best friend but he only speaks to me when hes on his own. Hes got a gf now and its so hard seeing them together. I told him i found it hard a couple of months ago to see him with his girl but he just had a go at me and said he doesnt know what i expect him to do. i know hell nevver want to go out with me again but i would like to be as close as we once were, as much as i do love him....maybe its best for everybody if were just friends
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reader, softballplaya  +, writes (21 July 2008):
 Hey girl
I know exactly what your going through, it happened to me too. It hurts, especially if you had a good friendship before. Everything right now is at an awkward stage because you still have feelings and hes moving on. You feel stuck in the past. I know. Like I said right now its awkward and you cant force yourself to be friends or get over him. All this takes time, its one big healing process. I thought I loved my ex of 4 months, a month later I had a new bf. Your young and boys will come and go but each time it gets harder because you feel like each one could be "the one" Its a middle school relationship, dwelling on the past will ruin the future ya know wha I mean? If things are bothering you why not ask him if you can put it all aside and leave it at no hard feelings. You can still have him in your life by doing so. It will be hard because after what he did you surely just cant forget all that. If I were you dear I would cut contact with him for a while, let yourself get over him. Like the saying goes "out of sight, out of mind" If hes not in your life for a while you wont think about him as much and you will be able to go out and enjoy yourself. I know this is all easier said than done but pretty soon the feelings you have for him will become less and less intense and shortly after you will be moving on. If you have any questions feel free to private mail me=]
best of luck & take care
xox ;Kalynn
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