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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I’m in love for two difficult women and I don’t know what to do:The French woman – She is 10 years older than me. I had a one year relationship with her, but she was breaking up all the time, so many times I never know when is the last one and I cannot be sure of what she will do in the future. She has sent me an email last week saying she loves me and wants to build a life with me, but she will not come to the city where I live.The Chinese girl – She is 10 years younger than me. She can see my qualities and respects me, she is always trying to speak to me and ask me out but she can't speak English, only Chinese (we have to talk through her friends or in email and mobile) and she is a student in the University where I work as a teacher (and I'm afraid of what people may say or do if they find).I didn’t know that it was possible to love again after I found my first true love with the French. But I never imagined I could love two women at the same time.What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2010): I think it's more likely that what you're feeling is not love but lust.
I'd drop the French woman, she sounds unstable and unwilling to commit to you. She's just playing games with you.
If the Chinese girl can't speak English well enough to ask you out, I don't see how you'd ever form a relationship since communication is vital to getting to know each other.
Assuming she is interested in you, 10 years younger is not that big of a deal. I wouldn't worry so much about what people say or do. You both have the right to date and be happy.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2010): If the chinese girl says I'm kind, friendly, patient, humurous and handsome, she is just being friendly?
If she sends me messages everynight, also?
Maybe,...
but what I'm not really sure is if you came here to give any advice or just remember your younger years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2010): you talk of these two women as if they are objects, to meet your needs. I sense you indicate your inquisitive lust towards these two women to meet your sexual needs. The lady from France is a known quantity, so you will put up with her tantrums again, as she has met your needs in the past. The younger Chinese woman is just being polite, and perhaps unaware that you are intending to move to sexually harrass her if you get the chance. At University we all used to laugh (behind their backs of course) at the randy male teaching who had delusions about their level of attractiveness to the women on campus.
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