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writes:I'm in a very new relationship (7 weeks) and recently my boyfriend told me that his family had invited us both to a family BBQ they are having for the bank holiday. Now I'm carer and my job is very important to me. Last year I worked my birthday, a few hours of my friend's wedding morning (I left early and the wedding wasn't till late afternoon) and Christmas. I mean, my job is to care for people and if I need to be there I can't just not go. When he told me last weekend, I explained that I was working on that day but we could maybe go later in the month or something because they have asked me to meet me, but he replied that it doesn't matter, it's not that important. I know that doesn't sound as bad to you as it did to me but it was the fact that when he mentioned it a few days later he reminded me that there are other's that work there, and I could have changed my shift. I feel terrible for not really thinking of that, and I feel terrible that I was invited and couldn't go. How do I make it up to him? It's only been a few weeks yes, but I don't want to start on a sore note with anyone.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (22 November 2015):
While i understand that your job is very important and you are a caring person.One question i would like to ask yourself is-Did you really did not want to go ?and were you using your job as a excuse.Becaused as you boyfriend stated you could have changed shift with someone else.So decide what you want and perhaps all will fall in place with your boyfriend .Kind wishes.NORA B.
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