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writes:me and my bf are on a two week breakmy friend's bf(only 18) died last nite so i told my bf that i want to end the break and want to meet up with him coz i miss him so much and love him and its killing me to be away from himhe said ''typical you only want me when it suits you and a shoulder to cry on''i said ''you are a heartless bastard''i told him i dont wanna lose him like my friend lost her bfhe said he's stressed out at workbut i am going through hell right nowwhy is acting so mean?
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (7 November 2007):
 Great answer RCN. Hi Asho. whatever the reason was for you and your bf's and break, is your own business but...it was an pre-conceived agreed upon situation.. I know the death of your gf's bf is devastating and it happened at an inopportune 'break up' point in your realtionship with your bf. He is not responding to your hurt and this has deeply upset you. He is in no way obligated to comfort you, hun. What you did, is you imposed your feelings on him when he wasn't ready to be dealing with your 'issues' or even with 'you'. He is still upset with YOU and you need to find a family member, sister, another good friend to grieve with. He is not obligated to mourn with you, if he chooses not to. You both are on a break-you both agreed on a temporary uncommitted, split from each other. Leave him alone and like RCN suggests...be strong for this friend of yours, who lost her bf. Consider what she is undergoing.. Go to her. Be strong and be her rock. She is your priority right now. Good luck.
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reader, rcn  + ♥, writes (7 November 2007):
 I'm sorry she lost her boyfriend. That's hard when people pass at a young age. I know you're going through hell. Do you need to spend more time with your friend to comfort her? Who initially requested to take a break? The best I can say here is comfort your friend, she's the one who needs you now, and let your boyfriend work with his stress.
Take care.
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