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writes:I have been having sex with a lecturer at my university for just over 4 months now. Now I will say, he doesn't have anything to do with my university grade. He has never taught me. However, he will sometimes help out with lab work and field trips. I am 21 and he is 36 We are "official" in the sense we are dating, it is not just sex. Our university has a policy that student/teacher relationships CAN happen if the teacher isn't said students lecturer. Which he IS NOT. Questions: Should we just act like any other normal couple, in public (obviously not inappropriately when he is in work. How do I introduce him to my parents, to them the issue will be that he is older than me. I don't believe that his job will bother them. Thank you in advance I don't necessarily think it is wrong. We feel so natural when it's just the two of us, I just fear the gossip and whispers. I am not doing this to gain anything from my education, as I did state in the question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2016): Yes, you should act like any normal couple in public, I see no reason why you should be ashamed (although probably best to keep your hands off each other while on university premises, or in nearby areas if you don't want gossip spreading around campus). As for your parents - does he look considerably older? If not, just introduce him as your boyfriend and don't tell them his age. Once they've got to know him, and realised he's just a normal guy, it's less likely they'd have an issue with it. If they ask how old he is, say "why how old do you think he is" (they then say a number) and then follow it with "Ah that's interesting, I think I'll keep you guessing a bit longer". And then walk away. As long as he's a good and respectful boyfriend, age is just a number. Good luck
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 March 2016):
 15 years is quite a big gap at your age, so I can see why your parents would be worried. Also it will be frowned upon if the staff in the college find out about this relationship. It might stand up in the policy but it will give your other half a very bad reputation.
The thing with something like this is people will talk, they will gossip and really there is not a lot you can do about it, you just have to hold your head high and ignore them, it will pass when there is something new to gossip about.
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