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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I and my boyfriend seem to be having the same argument over and over. I'm still young, but I've had enough relationships to realise that this one means a great deal to me, and I am determined to make it work. My boyfriend has been through a lot over the past year; his dad passed away only a few months before I met him. He was very dependant on weed until I met him, but changed voluntarily from the day we met just over six months ago. I'm worried he leans on me too much and don't know how to make him listen to my needs. If anyone has been through joint councilling sessions with their partner it would also be helpful to know how productive they have been. Reply to this Question
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reader, cd206 +, writes (25 February 2007):
 It's only natural that given his experiences your boyfriend leans on you. The thing is, you're 16 and you're not at the right stage in your life to be so there for someone. That's not meant as a criticism, just an observation that at your age, relationships should be fun, not hard work. You will not be able to get joint counselling at your age unless you're willing to pay for it and that will be VERY expensive. The NHS will not offer relationship counselling to a couple who are so young. However, it sounds like your boyfriend would benefit from some individual conselling that you could help him get. Tell him you think he hasn't properly got over his dad's death and it might do him some good to talk to someone. You could call the Cruse bereavement line to find out more stuff you could do to help him. Just one thing though... I REALLY admire you for sticking by him. Just don't lose out on your own youth because you're too busy trying to save him.
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