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writes:I asked my boyfriend during a conversation on the same subject, how many girls hes slept with, he told me that he wasnt going to say, and some things he will keep to himself. This made me think it was some huge number, how can i move on from this since its obvious he wont tell me.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (28 July 2008):
 Maybe its a small number and he is worried you wont think he is experienced enough. I think if it is a large number he is better off not telling you as you will only resent all these women and feel jealousy. Put it behind you x
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (28 July 2008):
 well all depends on what you class a huge number 2? 3? 5? 39?.. what happened in his past is just that and talking about it is only gonna disrupt the future its not worth it..put it behind you or it will cause problems. jealousy and much more, so drop it and be happy he is with you and wants you and not anyone else.. he might of only been with one other person or 4 or god knows how many. but it had nothing to do with you so it shouldnt bother you..sometimes somethings are best left unknown.. hope that helps aphex xx
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reader, saMmii3waMmiie  +, writes (28 July 2008):
You don't want to feel jelouse and tha past is the past you have him now and nothing can change that...but since ya are in a relationship you guys should be open to tlk about aniithing past or present..so get him 2 understand that but that means you 2!!!!
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reader, Angela.B +, writes (28 July 2008):
 Why does it have to be some huge number? Many young men would find it acutely embarrassing to admit that they haven't had many sexual partners (or even worse, that they have had none).
What ever his "number" may be it doesn't really alter your relationship with him in any way, other than to know he is not comfortable discussing this with you yet.
Emotional intimacy takes time to develop and grow. No doubt at some point in the future he will feel comfortable to discuss this issue and for now you'll just have to accept he isn't ready to.
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (28 July 2008):
 Why would you want to know? That's just setting yourself up for torture and jealousy.
Forget about the past. We all carry a bit of baggage around with us, and as time goes by it tends to accumulate. Let the past be, and concentrate on the relationship you have now.
Nobody wants a "kiss and tell" boyfriend. Even getting into enumeration is tricky, especially if you and he are in the same social circle and you know some of the women he's dated in the past. If you do know some of them, and he gives you a number, you're going to to spend time wondering if a specific ex is one of them or not. That's a terrific way to screw up your relationship. Best not to ask.
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reader, CantHelpFallin +, writes (28 July 2008):
if he truly cares about you, he should be honest with you and tell you the truth. you deserve to know for the sake of your sexual and overall health. if the subject comes up, tell him that you are not judging him-you just would like to know. request that both of you get tested asap!
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