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writes:Hey everyone,My family treats me like I'm a failure. I am 20 years old, and I am a junior at university, on my way to a degree in psychology with a minor in human development. I work very hard in school. I also work at a child care center for as many hours as they will give me per week. I live with my fiance in a modest apartment. He is also a student and contributes to our income equally. I would say we have a happy, relatively stable life with a bright future ahead of us! My parents are always acting like I make really bad decisions. They think I should be a doctor instead of getting a master's degree to work with disabled people. They don't think psychology is a real science. They wish I had a better paying job. They don't want me to live with my fiance, despite how happy he makes me, how we want a life together, and how his income helps to keep us both afloat. Mind you, my parents are very poor and are always struggling for money, so I understand that some of their worry comes from that. They are not helping to support me, we pay all of our bills. I have put myself through college this whole time. I am very frustrated that they act like I'm doing something bad, or not as good as I could be, when I'm doing something awesome that I absolutely love! I just want them to be happy and proud of me, because I'm happy and proud of myself. What can I tell them to make them see that this is hurting me?Thank you all for reading!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both very much :) I hope that they will see things from my perspective soon. I love my parents very much, and I know they're worry is well placed. It's good to hear what other, more experienced people have to say. Thanks again!
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (10 June 2012):
 Hi, Congrats on all of your achievements so far and even more kudos to you for recognising that you and your boyfriend have a bright and amazing future ahead of you.You are obviously and amazing person and your parents recognise that. We can't always have them see things our way, but what we can do is by example show them that you have made the right decisions. And you are already doing that....you are paying your bills and living very comfortably. You are doing great on your own by making your decisions. Don't let them make you feel like you are a failure...you've come a long way kiddo. Working with seniors is a tremendous gift and what you do is something you love, then you'll never work a day in your life. You will always be enjoying your days at work.I agree with aunt honesty, sit them down and let them know how much they are hurting you. Remember, you have done extremely well for yourself...extremely well. You should be proud of yourself and the life you live. Don't let your parents make you feel otherwise.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 June 2012):
 I think because they struggle with money they just want to see you doing the best that you can do. But you are right though, you are supporting yourself, you are in a happy relationship and studying something that you want to do, you should be proud of yourself, and so should they.
It is never that easy though, and I think the best way to deal with this is to sit them down and explain to them how much they are hurting you. Tell them you are happy and that they are bringing you down. It might not change things but it is good to tell them exactly how you feel, and who knows it might make them realise how happy and settled that you are.
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