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writes:My boyfriend and I have been separated for nearly three months with one month left to go. We still talk as often as we can, but the horrible pain we felt for most of our separation is gone. I still love him very much and I know he loves me, but it's different somehow. I'm busy; he's busy and while we still talk, we are now o.k. with not talking for longer periods. Is this normal or could this mean that we are drifting apart?Also, sometimes when he calls he is so irritable and says he is still having trouble and it makes him angry and he thinks I don't want to talk to him. I do, but I am a little miffed that he doesn't use the time we do have to talk to catch up rather than be cranky. He has been drinking since I've been gone and this is not something he ever did before, not even a little. He drinks to the point of getting sick on the weekends which we agreed before I left neither of us would do. I am actually not remotely interested in ever doing that.Could it be that he has gotten drunk and gotten interested in someone else who also drinks a lot, or perhaps hooked up with someone and that is the reason he is cranky?Sorry so disjointed. Any replies are appreciated.
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reader, Midge  + ♥, writes (20 March 2007):
 My boyfriend is a roadie for a few big bands and is away for long periods of time. I'm talking 7 to 8 months of the year. When he goes away, at first I miss him and want to speak to him every chance I get. It pains me to think he is so far away. Eventually you get to the point where, its not the fact that you dont care or love them, but you get used to the idea that they are away.
I'm not sure why you are apart, so cannot comment on that, but I'm sure he's not got another love interest, probably just busy with what he is doing and his only release is the drink. That is no excuse for it as my boyfriend doesnt really drink except when he's away with the bands. Then he makes up for it and does tend to overindulge.
The only way you will know if you feel the same way about him is when he/you returns. You will know instantly if you still feel the same way about each other.
The day my boyfriend comes home, I feel like a little schoolgirl. Making sure everything is perfect for him coming home. Not to mention the fact that just a few days before, if he didnt call, he didnt call.
Weird, but very true. My boyfriend has done this for 7 years and it happens every time he leaves the country!
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