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writes: I am to be married this xmas the unreal thing or im up front more i met another woman and 8mths later we are trying to find peace with ending this relationship we both love each other.i know i shouldve know better but it was like the universe attracted us together, what do you think
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reader, Manya  +, writes (5 October 2006):
It's hard to tell from so little info, but I agree with
the previous person that you definitely need to think
this through very carefully. Who do you love the most,
who might you want to spend the rest of your life with?
Were you attracted to the second girl because you
are afraid of marriage, or not ready, or wanted a last fling?
Why did you get engaged?
It all sounds emotionally complicated, and you must
be pretty miserable underneath.
Think 10 years from now, and God bless you.
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reader, Bethan +, writes (5 October 2006):
 If u really love this woman that much u shud talk to ur fionce and be honest with her tell her that u want to break the engagement off because u are in love with some one else!
this may b hard to do but u shud make sure u r happy and if u cant let go of this woman then dont!
If u are unhappy it will make the marraige unhappy and that would make urs and ur fionces life hell
do wha u think is best 4 u and ur partners!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2006): I think marrying your partner would be a huge mistake. You say your in love with this other woman, how can you possibly go ahead and marry someone your not in love with and expect to be happy for the rest of your life?
The distruction you may cause by coming clean about your affair and leaving your fiancee might seem too much but surely you owe it to the woman yr due to marry to be finally honest? Why lead her into a marriage that she thinks is a life long commitment under false pretences? Yeah she will be hurt but in the long run at least she has the chance to move on and find what you have with this other woman, to find what she thinks she has with you! I think your possibly going to hurt her more by marrying her. Id say act fast before it is too late.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2006): you need to think long and hard about this. ask yourself if you really do love your mistress more than your fiance. someone once told me a saying which i'll never forget. 'never leave the one you love for the one you like, because the one you like will leave you for the one they love'. you need to follow your heart and think about who you will truly be happy with. and if you truly love your fiance would you have cheated on her?
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