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writes:My parents play favorites. I am the middle child with an older sister whose going into college and a younger brother whose going into 4th grade. My brother and sister always get treated better than me, when im probably the easiest child they have. I'm smart and I always do what they say. Anyway, lets say for my communion. When my sister got hers, she got a diamond necklace. My nrother got a new bike that he doesn't even use. I got an ok rosary, which would be fine, if i didn't have a million and a half already, and that my siblings got much better gifts. This happened again for confirmation. My sister got a tiffany's bracelet and i got a crappy bible thats falling apart. Not even a nice bible. I can't tell you how many times this has happened at christmas or on birthdays.Another example: My brother is a snide little s.o.b that always instigates. So lets say hes making fun of me and im not doing anything, we almost always get the same punishment. And the other day, he wouldn't shut up, so i lightly hit him on the shoulder. My mom wouldn't let me go out with my friends, but my brother could do whatever he wanted. My mom always talks to my sister. Like all the time. And that's great, but she never talks to me and I'm used to it. Anyway, they always sit on the couch in out living room and talk, and whenever I'm there and I try to say something, my sister either flips me off or says something rude and all my mom does is say her name. And if we're in the car without my sister and a song comes on that i don't like, i say oh this song is horrible, etc. And my mom agrees. But when my sisters around and that same song comes on, my mom suddenly loves that song just because my sister likes it. My dad favors my brother. He doesn't do anything, not even pour his own drink because its "too heavy" to lift. Hes in 4th grade! He never does any housework. My dad's excuse? He's a boy. He does this with my sister too. His excuse for her is that she goes out alot and doesn't have time. I go out just as much as my sister and i always have housework i have to do. I'm so sick of this. What can I do? Btw thanka for reading that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks!
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (21 June 2011):
 And the spoils go to the spoiled. You're not, so chances are you'll receive the treasures of life. Patience, endurance, independence, courage, etc..
However if you need attention you will have to ask for it. If it is not given you will have to demand a time for it. If that is not given you'll have to ask your parents for outside counseling. You have to take care of your needs to avoid resentment and emotional pain. It's ok to seek that for yourself, even if through a teacher or counselor or a hobby or through prayer or education. As my father always said, you can pick your friends but not your family.
Best wishes, don't fret, I'm a middle kid too and ya, it sucks sometimes, but my biggest problem is never asking for help when I need it, thus I never know it's there and think the worst, but when I reach out I get help and that makes me feel loved but for middle kids it also makes us feel defeated. Middle kids are very proud kids.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2011): You can spend your life resenting your elder brothers and sister and your younger ones.But trust me, all that does is make you feel miserable. Being the middle child is never easy, and from the sounds of it your parents and family aren't exactly making it any easier.You need to be the wise one. Be the child with the most humility and grace even if you never receive that in return. Be there when the others need you to be, even if they take advantage of that sometimes.Because they are your family. Just because they might sometimes forget what that means, it does not mean you have to.Or you could just bring up how you feel with your parents and just say you are feeling a little like an unwelcome visitor as you seem to be overlooked, passed over, and have to scramble for scraps of their attention after the eldest and youngest are done.Mostly though, you are entering puberty. These feelings of resentment, rebellion and angst are only going to increase as hormones pump through your body like there's no tomorrow in an attempt to ready it to procreate. These will affect your brain as well. They way you think is changing. You no longer wish to be treated as a child, but you don't yet have the wisdom to be treated as an adult.Just try and take that in stride and bring up any misgivings and problems as maturely as you can with your family.There is no sense in letting envy and scorn just fester away inside of you. That's how broken homes are made.Flynn 24
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