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writes:I dont want to scare him...this new guy i am seeing is great, in so many ways........but very inexperienced...I had been with my ex bf for a long time, and we both lost our virginity to eachother, we took things very slow. Im with this new guy now, and we are both crazy about eachother, he is 2 years older than me.....but has only ever kissed a girl??? He is very shy and his ex (of 10months!!!....only let him 'make out')....I want to have sex with him, and i know he respects and likes me enough to be mature about it and want it too ;).. im not saying NOW, but definitly in the future...BUT... as im the girl.... how do i "train" him without me seeming REALLY FORWARD and 'slutty'...? Im not like that! Any tips for how to warm him up to eventually get to that stage some time? but not scare him? I went through all that stuff with my ex, we learnt and experienced everything together at the same time. Is it wrong for me to try help a GUY with all that?or do i wait for him to make the first moves? :Sguys what do you think?girls what would you do if you were me?
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reader, Fiona xxx  +, writes (24 July 2008):
 You are so sweet for saying you ar not turned off by him being a virgin, and it's nice to hear you are concerned about how he feels :)
So how long have you been together?
Fiona.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni am not turned off by the fact that he is a virgin at all....
i just dont want HIM to be turned off for being more experienced and 'maybe intimidating' to him
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reader, Rhandy  +, writes (23 July 2008):
 its ok if u do the first move and for me it makes me more challenging and passionate with sex if my girl is more experienced.
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (22 July 2008):
Hi Thanks for sharing your issues. I don't think you have as much to worry about as you think. I thought when I read the start of this you had had various partners, so I don't see how your experience would be off-putting.
Only do you find it off-putting that he is a virgin?
At least you are somewhat surprised considering he is older?
I doubt you would have too many problems in creating the opportunities. You said that his ex would only make out, in other words he would have gone further if she felt right or old enough or whatever.
Think back to how it was for you and apply similar principles.
Don't forget to use a condom. Make sure he knows to withdraw straight away after ejaculation, otherwise the condom will slip off inside you. Something that he might not realise if he is nervous.
Men will be men and no doubt still make the first move.
The thing is do you find it off-putting he is a virgin, or are you pleased about the opportunity to show him one or two pointers?
Fiona.
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reader, Replacement + ♥, writes (22 July 2008):
 There is nothing wrong with a girl teaching a guy sexual things. He's your boyfriend, he shouldn't think of you as slutty. It's normal for boyfriends and girlfriends to have sex with one another. Just show him how it's done but make sure you don't go faster than he is comfortable with. If he's uncomfortable you won't enjoy it.
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