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writes:Please can someone help me, I need advice as soon as possible! I asked a question a while ago about the effectiveness of the pill and my chances of getting pregnant because I was really worried. Well, I've still got two weeks till I finish my pack and then I will see if my period comes or not. I was starting to get over my worries about being pregnant, I mean after all the pill is 99% effective and I have only been having sex for a month so the chances are pretty slim right? Well I've been ignoring the little things like dizziness and feeling like I've put on wait and my stomach looks bloated (like it normally does around period time) because I thought I was just being paranoid. Last night, randomly I just got really scared. I was having a shower and I was looking at my stomach and I just thought. 'oh god. I bet I'm pregnant'. I just stood there and cried for ages. I spoke to my boyfriend (who is in Egypt till Saturday) and just asked him what he would want me to do if I was because he knows I've been paranoid and one of the things I've been worried about is that he would want me to keep it. Anyway, he said if I was pregnant he would stand by me whatever I wanted to do and so I felt a lot better after that and today I had a good day, the pregnancy thing was just a little niggle as usual. But then this afternoon my dad was dying my hair over the bathroom sink and suddenly I felt really sick. I told him I felt ill and then I passed out. He was so worried about me! Oh god I'm so scared. My parents don't know I've had sex, they would never look at me the same if they knew. And just recently they've been so nice to me which makes it 100 times worse because my family has always been the arguing type. I'm so scared. How can this happen? It's so unlikely! But I must be pregnant, what else could it be? I'm just terrified. I need some support please. Anything will do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for my recent answers! I feel a lot better now. If I go funny again I'm going to go the nurse and get a test, otherwise I'm just gonna wait for my period. Thank you Cari, its good to know that someone feels the same as me and I'm not a crazy person who needs counselling. Thank you!
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reader, cari  +, writes (3 April 2008):
 im going thru da same ting hun..my question is rite under urs!i kinda freaked out yesterday coz dis fella i really like texted me saying he had a dream i cheated on him,got pregnant and he went mad!if u read my question u'll see i made a huge mistake by sleepin with my ex,im on the pill like u but i totally understand why u are freaking out,thats happening to me to but i'm more relaxed today and tinkin rationally so i can tell u i do think we'r both worrying over nothing..the pill is highly effective so the chances of us bein pregnant is very slim,i'v bin to a doctor before coz ages ago when i was with my ex fiance i was very worried i cud be pregnant,i'd have all da symptoms and i did pass out once,he told me it could be coz i was obssessing abot bin pregnant,the fact i cudnt stop worryin,nd i was so positive i was pregnant made me feel all da symptoms nd led me to pass out,he made me take a test tho and NO i was not pregnant,i dnt rly trust any type of protection,tink the pill is da best but if im not pregnant(i really hope im not)im gonna stay on the pill but also use a condom..dats the best way to do it and not freak out afterwards hun!
best of luck babe,let me no wat happens,i still hav a week 2go den hopefully i will get my period!
we are not pregnant,try to think positive ok?rememba the chances are VERY slim!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): Hi Sweetheart,
This may be a silly question here, but when you say you've taken 3 packs in a row of pills, you have remembered to leave a week in between for your period?
In some packs there are 'dummy' pills so you take those but on other packs you only take them for 3 weeks and leave a gap for your period.
If you're on this type of pill and have been going straight to the next pack, then you won't have had a period.
Bext solution all round is really simple, but a test from the pharmacy or from a supermarket and put your mind at ease!
Be sure to report back and let us all know how you get on!
Im sure you aren't pregnant! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): do u have any stomach pain like tummy bug or any thing , maybe it morning sickness so it possible u might be pregant but best see a doctor to confirm
hope it help
craig
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Tisha xxx
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reader, Tisha-1  + ♥, writes (2 April 2008):
 I'm sorry that you didn't get the advice you thought you were asking for, but when I just reread your initial question, it was filled with worry and panic. I think most of us answering responded to that and if you've posted before, with the same concerns, then maybe you are looking for more than just medical advice.
As I said earlier, none of us claim to be health or medical professionals with expertise in diagnosing or treating any medical conditions; that's why I suggested you needed to speak with your doctor about this. It would be irresponsible of anyone to tell you that your symptoms mean x or y, definatively, as we don't know your medical status.
I read the message and I think your worries and concerns took about 75% of the post, and you did say at the end, "But I must be pregnant, what else could it be? I'm just terrified. I need some support please. Anything will do." And unfortunately, you got 'anything,' which maybe was not what you'd intended. I am sorry for that, really, I am, but again, if this was a medical question, then you might need to look at other sites.
Here's one that may be able to help you: webmd.com. The information there is vetted by medical professionals and I think it could be useful to you as you research this problem.
As far as getting the question removed, you could go to the 'about us' page on the site to find the link to the site administrator.
Here are more specific links which may help you discuss things with your doctor.http://www.webmd.com/baby/understanding-pregnancy-discomforts-symptomshttp://www.webmd.com/sex/birth-control/default.htmhttp://www.webmd.com/sex/birth-control/health-sex-birth-control-pillshttp://www.webmd.com/heart-disease/tc/fainting-topic-overviewhttp://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/fainting
Hope this helps, and good luck with everything!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm sorry but I didn't ask for advice on how to stop being worried. I wanted to know why I passed out, is this a sign of pregnancy? There is no apparent reason why I would have passed out I'm normally very healthy. Also, I find it quite insensitive that I am asking for help but yet I feel like I'm being judged for worrying about something that is a big deal to me. I'm not indulging in 'high drama' and I don't need counselling. But thanks anyway, I feel much better now you have brought this to my attention. Moving on, can anyone tell me how to contact Andrew to get my question removed? I don't want anymore responses, clearly I'm looking in the wrong place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): its np jus glad i could help
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Michael xxx
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reader, lilmisse2424 +, writes (2 April 2008):
 hey there,a lot of women do worry about getting pregnant after sex. the chances of pregnancy are there, but are high if the woman has unprotected sex. you are on birth control and take it regularly, so you should be fine.if you skip the pill one time, the chances of pregnancy are slim. the best solution that i can tell you is to purchase a pregnancy test at your local pharmacy. test when your period is due, or if you feel uncomfortable buying it, i would go to your doctor at a center for women's health, LIFE. they should have free pregnancy tests. doctors can actually help you with this problem more than us here with the medical advice.For future reference, when having sex, take caution, especially since you are on the pill, please have your man wear a condom. Good Luck!!!
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (2 April 2008):
 Having sex is obviously not healthy for you. I would stop.
For now, go buy a pregnancy test and quit indulging yourself in this high drama.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 April 2008):
 Let me get this straight, once you get your period this month you will then feel totally safe on the pill and will NOT go through all this worry next month, right? Now if that's true then okay maybe you don't need therapy. HOWEVER, if you do start fretting again next month, please seek out the help you need.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): first n foremost calm down okay?the odds of you being pregnant are slim..and you could have had an anxiety attack beacause of all the pressure your under my sister used to get them as well and that is honestly what it sounds like just calm down tho i mean your bf said he would stand by your decition try to stop focusing on the negatives and try to focus on the positives b4 you get anymore worried i would advise you to get a pregnancy test then if it says your pregnant then focus on what to do about it.good luck
-michael
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reader, Renegade +, writes (2 April 2008):
 If you've been on the pill for over a month,then it is 99% effective. Maybe your worry about the situation is what made you feel unwell,but to be on the safe side. Why dont you get a pregnancy tester(clear blue are brilliant).At least then you will know for definite.It seems from your question that you have a great boyfriend and a loving and supportive family.Take a home test! If it is positive then dont wait to talk to your parents and boyfriend. A Father who dyes his Daughters hair is obviously a loving man and I am sure will understand.Have just read you recent replies to the answers you recieved and note that you have been taking the pil for three month's.I think it very unlikely that you are pregnant,and maybe your anxiety is causing you to be unwell.Take a home test and put your mind at ease.
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reader, Tisha-1 + ♥, writes (2 April 2008):
You could have been hyperventilating, you could have had the blood flow to your head restricted by hanging it over the sink.
Call the doctor!!!!! And ask the questions about the pill!
I don't think any of us aunts or uncles are qualified to give you medical advice; we're just trying to help you with the emotions you're feeling. For really sound advice on the effectiveness of the pill, talk to your doctor. There are also home pregnancy tests you can use, as I'm sure you've been told, but again, the medical professionals who prescribed you the pill should be the 'go to' people for questions like this.
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reader, Tisha-1 + ♥, writes (2 April 2008):
You could have been hyperventilating, you could have had the blood flow to your head restricted by hanging it over the sink.
Call the doctor!!!!! And ask the questions about the pill!
I don't think any of us aunts or uncles are qualified to give you medical advice; we're just trying to help you with the emotions you're feeling. For really sound advice on the effectiveness of the pill, talk to your doctor. There are also home pregnancy tests you can use, as I'm sure you've been told, but again, the medical professionals who prescribed you the pill should be the 'go to' people for questions like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhy do you all think I'm crazy? The reason I worry about it is because being pregnant would be such a horrible thing to happen for me right now. I would have to have an abortion because theres no way I could go through pregnancy and for me the idea of an abortion is pretty distressing. I'm not in need of therapy, I'm just worried.
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reader, In Lovee With A Soulja Boii,,* Ily Ma Armyy Boi x +, writes (2 April 2008):
 Hi. it sounds to me as if you might just be paranoid. i dont really know what to say really. the best piece of advice i could say is go to the doctors and have a check up. and i think its best if you tell your mum and dad. your how old ? they need to kow maybe it wont be that bad?? just think abut it carefully ...
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reader, Tisha-1 + ♥, writes (2 April 2008):
When I went on the pill, I blew up like a balloon and put on weight too. My fiance said it was the most effective birth control he'd ever seen, because it made me feel so unattractive and lousy!
Eyeswideopen is really correct here; your fears and worries are reaching the point of obsession and you are not thinking rationally about this. Call the doctor who prescribed the pills and get some really good information from him/her or one of the nurses there. And ask for a referral for a counsellor to help you through this.
All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt doesn't sound harsh but I can't get counselling. I would be alright if my period came, I keep trying to ignore it but then little signs pop up. Why did I pass out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): as long as you are taking your pills as instructed, you should be fine. are they the sort that you are meant to take continuously and not get a period, or do they include seven days of placebo/sugar pills?
if you take them continuously, you may want to ask your doctor to switch you to ones that still result in a period. if pregnancy is something you're likely to worry about, it may be comforting to you to know at the end of each month that you aren't pregnant. otherwise you're probably going to want to take periodic pregnancy tests just in case.
if your prescription includes inactive placebo pills, you should be taking those when specified. don't skip them just to miss your period.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 April 2008):
Now I hope this doesn't sound hard or harsh but I truly feel you may need to seek some counseling. Based on this and your last post you are obsessing over pregnancy. You have a real terror here not just a worry. You need to get this under control or you will make yourself miserable. This irrational fear will not go away on it's own, honey. Try to get that counseling OK?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've had the last three packs of pills without a break and I take them every day at the same time without fail. I lost my virginity on the 6th of march and I hadn't had a break from pills for about 3 packs so I haven't had a period for a few months.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): have you been taking your pills regularly and at around the same time each day? if you haven't missed one, it's unlikely that you're pregnant. i don't really think losing consciousness is a sign of pregnancy either... it could have been fumes from the hair dye or the fact that you had your head bent over for a long time.i assume you had your last period before starting this new pill pack. if so, you could only be two weeks pregnant at most, and it is very unlikely that you would already be experiencing symptoms. the only way to be sure is to wait till you're supposed to have your next period and take a pregnancy test if you don't get it when expected. in the meantime, try to keep calm because it sounds like you're overreacting.
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