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female
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18-21,
anonymous
writes:ive been with my boyfriend for three months now and im really starting to fall for thing. however im having some problems with how often we see each other. we both work part time in a bar job at weekends so i see him maybe twice a week at work (but we work on different bars so i maybe see him for like 1-2 hours a shift) and i only see him once or twice outside of work. this isnt enough for me and i miss him so much. the thing that annoys me is its always me who initiates meeting and he quite often says no because he is too tired or just wants to chill on his own.take tonight for example. people from work were going out for drinks and he said last night he was going to go for a couple but today he pulled out because he was too tired so i ended up going alone. and last week we said we would spend tuesday night together but when i text him tuesday afternoon to organise it he said he was too tired and in a bad mood (housemate and money problems) so just wanted to be alone.i get upset about this because it feels like he doesnt want to see me and i know i want to see him more often but he insists he does want to see me hes just too tired.anyway, because im so upset, i keep finding myself tempting to stray from him. i guess i crave the affection hes too tired to give me. tonight theres a friend from work called dan whos really flirty and he had a few drinks and asked me if i found him attractive and i said yes and he said hes attracted to me. he keeps hugging and kissing me and tonight he looked down and i asked him what was wrong and he said he wished i wasnt with my bf. the worse thing is i almost went back to his flat with him and i dont know why. i care so so much for my bf and when im with him or just spent time with him i cant think of anything or anyone else and im so happy but when he doesnt want to see me, i keep finding myself thinking about cheating on him (although i cant imagine myself having sex with someone else, maybe just kissing)why do i do this when i care for him so much? what can i do to control it? i feel so bad
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reader, lovingheart  +, writes (21 April 2008):
I think the best thing you can do is to be open and talk about how you're feeling.
Sometimes (from personal experience)when men are confronted with how you're feeling the way you are and the reasons behind them they'll either change their ways or give you the answers you're looking for.
If you're not happy with the amount of attention you crave and you find yourself looking outside of the relationship for satisfaction then you need to get to the root of the problem. Talk to your boyfriend!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2008): You need to talk to him and have him level with you and you he. Tell him your tired of being left in the dark. This is a critical moment in your relationship, if you both agree, it could be over, otherwise, maybe both of you will work together as a team and help each other over humps you both may have, currently his. Before you decide to have a fling(stray), break up first.
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