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female
age
13-15,
maddierose
writes:Hi,I'll get to the point. I like this guy, and he has told me he likes me, but there is a huge communication barrier, he is deaf, and I have never been faced with this kind of communication barrier before. We can text and he can lip read. But I can't sign and I wish I could, but we have only just met.Should I learn how to sign so that we can communicate better? Is it too soon after meeting someone to make such a big decision? I've always wanted to learn how to sign but never really had a reason to.It's just something I don't understand, and I'm finding it hard to comprehend, I don't want to run away scared just becasue I'm faced with something different, but I just don't understand. Please someone give me some advice I really would like some ideas on how to approach this. I don't want to sound discriminitive either, I guess I'm just a little shocked, I didn't know he was deaf when I starting liking him... Any advice would be INSANELY appreciated!!Many Thanks xx
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reader, maddierose +, writes (7 July 2008):
maddierose is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yeah I think I will! He followed me over to my local shop and then luckily my friend was in there so she walked me back to my house but he was waiting in the cark park for me. My mum is out and I am scared. I'm definately staying away from him.
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reader, marieclaire +, writes (7 July 2008):
 oh dear! well don't worry i'm sure his threats are empty. anyway you aren't responsible for his actions. but if you are worried you should tell his parents
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reader, maddierose +, writes (7 July 2008):
maddierose is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your advice everyone! :)BUT it turns out he slept with my brothers girlfriend!! So I'm staying away and I found out hes going to be 20 soon and my brother would go mental! But now he is threatening to kill himself if I don't go out with him! Someone has threatened this before and they didn't do it so i'm not THAT concerned - but I noticed quite deep scars on his arms when i was with him so I'm not sure if you will or not :S...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): I think its really nice that you didnt leg it once u realised he was deaf.
I dont mean that in a horrible way but i know from personal experiences in these kind of sitations that peoples initial instinct is to run from what they dont know.
so good on you for liking the person for who they are :)
i say learn sign and also as the others said take it as a nice opportunity to write letters to each other!
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reader, TasteofIndia  + ♥, writes (5 July 2008):
 Hey sweet,
Well, this sounds like a super fun opportunity to get to learn sign language!! I'm sure he'd be happy to help you and you can do some studying on your own as well. Let him know that you really like him (or enjoy his company, whatever sounds best) and that you want to learn sign language so that you two can talk. I think it's actually a great way to flirt with this fella, and you guys may develop a really deep connection through these "lessons".
I think it's a great romantic set up. Oh, and take advantage of writing letters to each other! Talk about romantic... definitely go for it, girl.
You go girl!
xx India
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reader, marieclaire +, writes (5 July 2008):
you might as well learn i mean if it doesn't work out with you too then you've learned to communicate with a terribly ostracisized group in society. what have you got to lose
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