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writes:please help me!im still in love with ex boyfriend and the feeling is mutual.. our relationship is complicated because we constantly break up and get back together again.it seems like everyone is against us.wat do i do? please i need help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni told him i need time to be single and to kiss lots of boys.he has accepted it or thats what he says, he took me on an awesome sunday drive in an old vintage car and we went to a dam and had pancakes..it was awesome!!i think i miss his companionship and have forgotten about the bad times.. the thing is we had more good times than bad.when we had our break-ups it seemed it happened over the time when his parents always went away.im been cautious but im falling for him.is it the right thing to do to be single and to work on our friendship now and then see what happens..please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni told him i need time to be single and to kiss lots of boys.he has accepted it or thats what he says, he took me on an awesome sunday drive in an old vintage car and we went to a dam and had pancakes..it was awesome!!i think i miss his companionship and have forgotten about the bad times.. the thing is we had more good times than bad.when we had our break-ups it seemed it happened over the time when his parents always went away.im been cautious but im falling for him.is it the right thing to do to be single and to work on our friendship now and then see what happens..please help!
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (29 July 2007):
 Maybe the constant break ups should give you an idea that this relationship is not meant to be? No one gets on with their lover all the time but when it's that hard to even get along, surely that can't be true love?
I know it can be hard, especially when people are getting involved and it feels like you're fighting for your relationship all the time but if you're meant to be together, this will work out. If not, this will continue until you realise it's time to walk.
I think people who split up a lot then get back together don't really know what they want and this is something you might want to think about. When he's there, what causes the rows? When he's gone, why do you want him back and miss him when you always argue? Surely you can't be happy with the situation?
I guess what I'm trying to say is work out what you really want. People can find it hard to break free from a destructive pattern their life has taken and it can be difficult to imagine your life without whatever the thing is, even though it may be a negative thing. If this pattern continues for you two, you're making each other more unhappy and could be missing out on the chance of meeting someone who will make you happy.
Spend some time apart and if you do miss him, ask yourself why. Are you missing him for him or are you missing the drama and excitement? Tell everyone else to keep their noses out too, people interfering can push couples even closer together when they should be running in the other direction.
Good luck
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