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*EME82
writes:I knew a man he was preparing his divorce papers we were friends at first then after divorce we became more close i loved him soo much he was sooo decent he was trying his best to make me happy then after 4 months he asked to marry me his mother visted us at home to know my family everything was going soo fine he called my dad to arrange to meet him to talk about marriage details they fixed a certain daythe day b4 he visit us at home we were talking me and him and we had a quarrel then turned into a clash for trivial reasons he reacted so strangly and he talked to me in a bad way and he shouted at me and we hang up in a bad way and he insisted to visit us the next day as he told my dad then he came he sat with my dad and they talked then he lefthe sent me a text msg asking me how everything is going on and what is my dad's impression he was talking to me soo fromal i answered soo formal too and said nothing yet my dad hasnt say anything yeti was sad from the way he talked to me and i was waiting for him to call me and make it up but he left me for 3 days without even callingso i sent him a msg asking him why r u doing so u dont feel that u did me wronghe answered like that"i swear i was planning to live with u a wonderful life but now i'm sure that i wont be able to make u happy niether can u its not becoz of anything happened its just a feeling i have u r a wonderful girl but plzz forget about me and dont try to call" i was soo hurt so i answered"i dont want u either"it was the shoke of my life i waited till valentine's it was after his breakup with 2days and i sent him a msg that i still love him he answered "i know that sorry isnt a suitable word but life will go on after all and we will get use off what we had hope the best for u in the near future"a month passed now and i'm still dont know what was the reason for all thati didnt do anything and i'm still in love with himdid i do anything wrong????can anyone tell me the reason why he broke up with me??i need ur help plzzzzz
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reader, MEME82 +, writes (16 March 2008):
MEME82 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for your reply and supporti'm already moving on because i dont have any other thing to do or say i'm not the one who would go and beg him backi'm just confused what i did wrong to make him withdraw away this way and all at once i thought i'm the one who did a big mistakei needed to hear other's point of view to make sure that i didnt make him leave though i miss him soo much and i want him back and i'm realy suffering without him he realy left an empty space but i dont have anything to do
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reader, yeahsureyoubetcha  +, writes (16 March 2008):
 You are not the person he wants to be with. Perhaps you were not accepting of the behavior or whatever. He saw something that made him not want to be with you or not want to be the person he was when he was with you. You need to move on he is not the man you thought he was. The man you loved doesn't exist. He is not that man
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 March 2008):
 It is bad that he didn't give an explanation. I suppose he doesn't really have a good one to give. I don't think he decided to break up just because of the incidents with the family; I'm not sure that would be reason enough for that. But I do know that he was mean to you, and I do know that, in this light, you're better off without him.
He was acting like he was in love and you didn't really know what he had on his mind. I think this is not a dream relationship. And it is clear he isn't coming back.
It won't be easy, but I think you shouldn't think about him anymore. Just move on and be happy.
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reader, korculan queen  +, writes (15 March 2008):
Maybe his mother's interference had something to do with it or he met your family and realized that they are very supportive of you. Abusive men will seek out a woman with a troubled background to more or less pick their target. he may have realized that your family will behind you if things turn pear shaped. Maybe it was never his intention to marry you he just strung you along. At LEAST he should provide you with a PROPER EXPLANATION FOR HIS ACTIONS. Seeing as how he had difficulty saying sorry I would say he had the potential hall marks of being an abuser. I would count your blessings.
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reader, MEME82 +, writes (15 March 2008):
MEME82 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u soo much variety for ur replybut i didnt say anything terrible it was a discusion about one of his behaviours and then turned to a clash like any other clash any couple may have it wasnt a big issuebut he reacted violently and shouted and talked in a bad way
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reader, Variety  +, writes (15 March 2008):
 It sounds like he got cold feet about the whole thing.
It is no consolation now but at least this happened before marriage and kids. Now you need to not focus on what went wrong but on moving on with your life and (in time) maybe finding someone new.
Don't beat yourself up about this. If you had a good relationship with him then one fight shouldn't have him running away (unless you said something really terrible and it doesn't sound from here that you did). As much as it hurts now it was not meant to be.
Hope this helps. Message me if you want to talk. x
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