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female
age
36-40,
*asodistic
writes:I've been with my boyfriend exclusively for about 8 1/2 months and am 7 1/2 months pregnant. We've had alot of drama in the past, but ever since I started dating him exclusively I've been the happiest I've ever been in a relationship. I honestly plan on marrying him, which is a big thing for me, since I was engaged twice in the past to men I told NOT to propose because deep down I knew I wouldn't be with them. But here's the problem... I moved in with him and his family and have no vehicle and am a good ways away from my friends, which means when he's not home, have practically nothing to do. He goes out and hangs out with his friends to play video games all the time and I don't know what to do. I'm so close to giving birth and all I want is for him to be around with me, but I feel if I tell him to hang around with me he'll just see me as selfish and I'll end up feeling selfish in the long run. It's really frustrating and makes me feel less important than his friends and video games even though he tells me otherwise. I don't know what to say/do to make him realize how I feel. Any suggestions?
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (31 March 2009):
 How is your relationship with his parents? I would talk to them first, and ask them to sit with you so you can all talk with him about how you are feeling.
He needs to understand taht when this baby comes, there will be no more video games, or nights out with the guys for quite a while.
His current behavior is a predictor of what is to come, and unless his parents are willing to cover his duties with raising this baby, then they need to set him straight now. I'm willing to bet that though they love helping, they'd rather enjoy being grandparents than "foster" parents to the baby.
You all need to have a talk about his actions and what is expected of him. You especially need to tell him how much you need him right now, and how you want to be close with him during this emotionally and physically draining part of the pregnancy.
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