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writes:I'm 18, female and i recently lost 4 stone! I told my 35 yr old married boss(with 2 kids), who I'm sleeping with, that my period is 9 days late and he said take a test but i already took a test and it said not pregnant. But my period is never this late and he said take another test. Could i be pregnant??? I'm not on the pill and we didnt use a condom. I am under alot of stress at the moment, so when the hell will my period come??? I'm so worried!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2007): Just stay relaxed, take another test. If it comes up negative then most likely you are not pregnant. Stress, weight loss/gain, change in enviroment, etc. can cause changes in your period. If you really want to be sure there are plenty of free clinics in many areas that will allow you to take a urine test and give you a result.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006): And the saga continues .. I thought that a negative test would still leave an opening...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006): ok I do sympathise with you, I am in the same postion and its not a nice place to be in. Im 21 and I have been sleeping with my boss for over a year and he is married. If I was you if your not pregnant and the relationship hasnt been going on for long, try to cut ties now. You may not have feelings for your boss at the moment but you will get attached and end up getting hurt. I really hope your not pregnant because I really dont think he would leave his wife for you, and even if he did would it really work??
Good luck.
Suzanne. x
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reader, TELLULAH  + ♥, writes (21 November 2006):
 Hi,
Blimey, no wonder your stressed. You are only 18 and sleeping with a man of 35, what are you thinking. Your lack of a period, is most likely to do with your weight loss. But you still have to find out for sure. At least then you can get your life in order. Do you think that if you are, he may leave his wife and kids for you?. He more than likely wont. Im not accusing you, but that would be the wrong thing to do. He is probably on an ego trip, pulling a girl of 18. I dont understand the attitude of people, always blaming the young girl the older married man has an affair with. Is it not the mans fault, after all its him who is married. And shouldnt he know better, he is an adult.
If I were you I would get a new job, and sort yourself out.
Hopfully this is your only problem.
If not, remember he is to blame as well. And you will have to decide what is right for YOU, never mind what problems he has.
Please take care, and look after yourself. X
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (21 November 2006):
 If you didn't use protection you should've taken the 'morning after pill' ever heard of it? Anyway it's too late fot that now. Take another test try different brands, the ones that say "over 99% accurate." And if it says not pregnant on all of them then you're fine. Or if you're really in a panic pop down to your nearest clinic and get them to test you.
Maybe your period is late because you've changed your diet or stress or something major that has changed in your life, like your wieght loss. Your body may be reacting to that.
I've got a couple of questions for you though. I might as well since you mentioned it... Do you think it is morally correct to be sleeping with a married man with 2 children? Does it bother you at all when you sleep at night? Are you cool with that?
If not, you know what to do to make it right. I don't need to say anymore.
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reader, Jessamy +, writes (21 November 2006):
You must be pretty scared right now, and you sound very stressed. It is entirely possible to have a period come late or not come at all in times of extreme stress or when you have been undergoing unusual physical exertion. This has happened to me. So you are not neccessarily pregnant. If the first test showed that you aren't, that's a good sign. However, these tests can sometimes be wrong, especially when taken early on. For your own peace of mind, if for no other reason, you should definately take another, or go to see your doctor, who should be supportive.
I won't judge your relationship, that's not what I'm here for. But I will just caution you to watch out with your boss- it sounds to me a bit like he might be taking advantage of you. It's up to you, though. Good luck, and I hope things work out for you.
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (21 November 2006):
 You people sicken me! Stop worrying about yourself and show a bit more respect for his wife and innocent children. How would you like it if you were married in your 30s and found your husband was sleeping with some teenager!? As already said, cheaters face hard consequences. If you are pregnant, then I guess that will teach you to use a condom next time. Yes, you saved a dollar on the condom, but how much is that baby going to cost?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2006): Now, you know you shouldn't BE sleeping with your married boss, period!
Either quit cheating on his wife and kids with him, or find another job. If you think you are pregnant and can't handle it, get an abortion - or have the baby and give it up for adoption when born.
Cheaters face hard consequences!
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reader, DrPsych + ♥, writes (20 November 2006):
 Weight loss can interfere with your cycles so that could be a consideration. Pregnancy tests are not always accurate for every woman because they are dependent on hormone levels in your urine sample. The only way to really find out is a blood test. A friend of mine was 4 months pregnant without knowing as she took dozens of tests that were negative and only found out when she had a blood test at the hospital for something completely different!
As for your sleeping with your older married boss...good idea? Surely not...what do you think he will do if you are pregnant...
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