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anonymous
writes:I have a partner of two years and we recently split (about six months ago) for a short period of time. During this time, I was really low on confidence and started sleeping with a male friend of mine. At first i thought it was 'love' (because i was constantly excited about seeing him, lusting after him etc) but now i realise that he isn't right for me and it was infatuation. We never got together officially, it was just kind of a sexual arrangement on my part. although i did tell him that i love him (because i do care for him deeply). Now I'm back with my partner and I don't know how to break away from him. I tried once (about a month ago) and i cried for days, i felt really lost without him. The thing is, this guy now says that he sees us as in a relationship? So technically I'm seeing two guys! The last few weeks I've deliberately not been in contact as much and when i text him I'll put the friendly 'one-kiss' at the end. How can I get out of this without hurting people? I hate the thought of upsetting either of them. Hope you can help!
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reader, Danielepew  + ♥, writes (30 April 2008):
 A way out of this could be put an end to the "arrangement" with the other guy. Your boyfriend would stay with you and you would pray that he never ever found out that you cheated on him. That is all you can do if you want to keep your boyfriend.
I think a more important question now is whether you won't feel low on confidence again, and will cheat again on your boyfriend. If you can't stay faithful to him, leave him.
Sorry to be this blunt, but what's done is done, and no one can change that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut i do love my bf. Is there any way i can stay with him after what i've done? Would it be really wrong to stay with him and not tell him...?
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reader, Danielepew + ♥, writes (30 April 2008):
I think the best way not to upset them is putting an end to both relationships.
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