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writes:In a couple of months i'm due to get married to my faince, we've been together for a long time, haven't had sex justed kissed, (i prefered to get married and have sex so i stuck to my oath) and then he proposed to me so i said yes. But the problem is i haven't told him that i feel sick doing things with a man's ****. For example handjobs, blowjobs. I know it sounds weird, but i've seen him naked obviously and feel fine around him, i have no problem with a mans ****, it's just at times i get quissy and feel sick, i don't do it on purpose it just happens, i start feeling sick. I didn't feel sick when i seen his but i'm scared i might once we get married and have sex. And it's not even that i feel quissy because i don't want to have sex, i'm ready and i know, i could tell before i wasn't ready and so did tell him and he was fine, but i'm scared he might not want to be with me anymore. When i did first see his i felt lust,but things can change, and i don't want a marriage on lies, any small thing can cause problems and i don't want that. I'm too scared to tell him. Anyway to fix this? and is this normal or am i generally just freaking out cause it's my first time or am i really weird? How do i tell him? Could this risk our relationship? And any tips on how i can get used to it, and feel normal and not quissy? Any help will be apprecaited.
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (27 April 2009):
 I think because this will be your first time with him your just freaking out slightly and i think the more you think about it the worse it gets, if you have seen him naked and were ok with it then that is great, i know it is a bit too much at times to take in all the things your expected to do on your wedding night but i think the best thing to do is just take everything real slow you have all night! He will be understanding of you and they are so many products on the market now for making things taste more pleasant when down there, fruit flavoured condoms, flavoured lubes, and you can have a good shop around the stores before you actually get married buy some of these things and get used to their texture and flavour before you actually use them that way it wont be so much of a shock when trying to use them on the night, i mean just for you to buy them and try them out just by getting used to their touch, smell and feel, he does not need to know your doing this and it might actually help you come to terms with the queasiness you get, i hope so Congratulations on the wedding and i hope all goes to plan.
Gina
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