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writes:Okay , so me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost a month now and we've already kissed and made out. He's 15 and I'm 13. And we don't see each other all the time, we see each other about every other week. And every time we hang out i get scared to hold hands or to kiss him. And I know that I shouldn't feel this way. I just don't know why I get scared. I just need some help. Reply to this Question
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (9 July 2011):
 My daughter is 13 and I will tell you the same thing I told her.
You do not have to ever do anything you do not want to.
It is OK to say no.
When you are comfortable, you will be reaching for HIS hand.
Any boy who does not understand that, is not worth your time.
You have SO many dating years and experiences ahead of you, there is no need to rush a thing while you are learning:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2011): Take your time with this guy. If he's a decent guy he'll see that you need some time and if he tries to force himself on you then break up with him. So talk to him about it and ask him if he's willing to wait for your affection. You'll know what to do after you talk with him.
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (9 July 2011):
you are propbably needing to spend more time around him so you feel comfortable with him just relax when you do see him and just have fun try not to worry about it just hold his hand and you will see there is nothing to be scared of its what boyfriends and girlfriends do
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reader, Jay_xxxxx +, writes (9 July 2011):
 You have nothing to worry about with that, you're young, I met my boyfriend when I was 13 and when he was 15 and I know what you are feeling.
Your probably getting scared because you're worried it may lead to something you don't want as you're with an older boy, you don't have to do anything you're not comfortable with, just talk to him for awhile and you may start to relax and get use to holding hands, or just sit there and watch a film together and then just hold hands, it will build your self esteem and you will get use to it.
As with the kissing, just flow with it, you will start to like it. You really have nothing to worry about.
It's been 2 years and 3 months with my boyfriend and I'm still madly in-love with him and I hope you will be after that amount of time.
Hope I helped
Jay x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2011): When I was 13 I felt the same way, I liked the guy but I didn't feel like kissing him.
It may be a sign that its not meant to be? Cause he's older and probably more experienced than you, it might be a bit awkward.
You'll find when you get older you will start to feel more sexually attracted to guys which will make kissing something that you look forward to and enjoy.
Don't kiss him if you don't like it- maybe you just need to give it some time?
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