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26-29,
*iccanwish
writes:My best friend has this boyfriend, I am happy for her and she deserves to have a boyfriend who is devoted and wont treat her like trash, but it seems that she way more concerned about impressin him than spending time with me and our little group, she ignores us and sometimes leaves us out of the picture, she also seems to like giving him the impression that I am stupid or wierd when she is around him, I dont want to seem mean or selfish but when and if her relationship falls down I won't be there for her, I she reads this I hope you know that you are still my bestfriend but I dont apreiate being treated like a monkey in a cage - sorry, If you can help me and my friends please do because I am scared that this guy could ruin our friendship. :( wiccanwish
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reader, wiccanwish +, writes (13 August 2008):
wiccanwish is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all for your help -x- wiccanwish -x-
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (6 July 2008):
 No, Winker.
If a friend’s friendship with her boyfriend offends, feeling friendly with a boyfriend or even a boyfriend’s friend will offend too. To recommend to befriend a boyfriend to intend to amend… well, to what end? Extend to your friend the time to mend, not pretend! Depend on your bestfriend, don’t condescend.
You comprehend? Attend and depend, don’t try to ascend.
That will work much better.
In the end.
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reader, lushlass93 +, writes (6 July 2008):
 well if she is treating you like this you should still be there for her because no matter what you should be thats what true friends do all the time for each other she might really like him so she is trying to impress him thats why shes doing this you have to talk and tell her how you feel because she is obviuosly hurting your feelings
good luck xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): It doesn't sound like its the guys fault. But thats only because you haven't mentionned him doing anything that would give the impression.
Its obvious she'd like to spend more time with him. They're going out with each other reason. They love each other or at least like each other a lot. So they do want to spend a lot of time together.
But giving that impression might mean shes just trying to patronize you. This is obviously affecting you, so I suggest that you talk to her and say your my bestfriend, but you don't wanted to be treated badly.
I think she will take this badly. But your stuck.
You could keep your distance with her, or go against her when she does it. But again she'll probably turn on you. So...if you don't want your friendship ruined, you might want to just keep your distance and hang around with your friends without her and wait for the relationship to end.
But I do recommend you talk to her. I'm just warning you that she might take it badly.
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