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writes:Hi everyone,I met this great guy 2 weeks ago. We've been texting non-stop and it's been made clear that we both like each other. He almost always starts the texts and is the one to continue them. But for the last two days, it just seems like we have nothing to talk about anymore! i was scared this would happen.. and it did. He finally brought up today and we kind of made a joke about it. But I don't know what to do!Secondly, He's 19 (almost turning 20) and I'm 16 (almost turning 17). He's going into his second year of college and I'm going into my senior year. Am I too young?Ahhh please help! thanks =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): Hey! I'm the original person who posted this.
I asked him about talking on the phone but he doesn't like talking on the phone :( he was like "i only talk on the phone with my parents". Apparently "it's awkward". ugh
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reader, Heartmender  +, writes (19 July 2010):
 Well, like the others say, texting is impersonal and you do run out of things to say sooner or later. This isn't a reason to think the guy's a jerk or anything, it's just that humans are meant to INTERACT. We weren't created/didn't 'evolve' (whatever your belief is) to speak through texts, we are social creatures and while the digital way of communicating is all very modern and "hip" it isn't really conducive to a meaningful relationship. It has however given you a chance to learn what his interests are/what things concern him, so it may help with your verbal conversations and give you a good supply of subjects to talk about without that awkward silence that ends in one of you saying "soooooooo..." and then grasping at straws, you know?
If you're after a long term relationship with the guy then you really need to meet up and talk in person, see how you interact with each other and what the chemistry is like. (let's face it, in movies you never see the guy wake up with the woman in his arms and then get his phone out and text her "good morning dear, how was it for you...?", nor do you see couples conversing via text over the breakfast table, it just ISN'T how relationships work)
Texts are a great way to keep in touch and make sure the other person's alright without interrupting them too much, but I know from personal experiance that you can't build a relationship on them.
Good luck , I hope things work out well for you :o)
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (19 July 2010):
 No, young lady . I don't think there'a an age problem however, my instincts tell me he has slightly different interest than you do. That may be due to age but the actual years don't mean much. It's world views and various levels of intelectual realazations about stuff tha t can seperate two people. Foe instance, two can be exactly the same age but have nothing in common. I'd suggest you find out what he's interested in and learn all you can about that subject. Like sports,politics, music, etc. He won't usually do the same for you9mainl;y 'cause guys are jerks and secondly, well guys are rarely interested in the same things gals are in to. And that's my best guess(age is a number. Common interests are a goal to a successful relationship
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reader, 4everdreams97 +, writes (19 July 2010):
 talk to him and just explain that you need to know whats going on with him and no you are not to young
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reader, lola29  +, writes (19 July 2010):
you are somewhat young. but thats normal, and its basically texting, it gets boring and tiring after a while. why dont u start talking to him. he might be happy bout that. and charmed im sure.
and you want to start a relationship, then well try going out instead and just talk, if it doesnt happen then i guess you guys shouldnt be together in that way, just friends.
goodluck
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reader, Lulu Walls +, writes (19 July 2010):
 You're both too young to be in any kind of long term serious relationship. Enjoy the friendship and each others company. The best, closets, and deepest lasting relationships grow with time. Don't worry about what to talk about, it will just happen.
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