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female
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18-21,
anonymous
writes:hello i am very worried about my best friend she is getting involved with cocaine and recently her and another 2 girls stole 900 pounds from an old man's home. they did not break in but they became friends with the old man who is a pervert (they found pictures of 15 year old girls on his walls). i don't know what to do, i told my mother and she said i should not be alone with her. please help x
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reader, starfairy + ♥, writes (9 July 2008):
 You need to go to the police with what information you have.
For all you know they might have been investigating this guy for a while and might just be waiting for enough evidence to arrest him/etc.
If you don't, think how you would feel if you heard this paedophile raped one of your friends or a girl your age?
As for your friend(s) that are into cocaine and stealing money...I would distance yourself. My best friend from the age of 14-17 went that way - she'd sleep with anyone who would have her, would do any drugs she could get her hands on, etc. She wasn't this way in the beginning, but I started to get dragged into trouble, and that's not the kind of girl I am, so I walked away from the friendship, which was tough, but the best thing I could have done. Unless someone wants to change, they won't. You trying to help your friend, unless she wants help, won't do much to be honest!
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reader, O Connor  + ♥, writes (9 July 2008):
 i just have to disagree with the anonymous poster who basically said dont worry, and said that her friends do it etc etc etc.
directed to that poster -
this girl is 15 years old, went into a pedophiles house and took 900 pounds - and your saying let her have her fun and her sniff? i think it may be past a sniff or 2 at this stage....not good advice
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reader, marieclaire +, writes (9 July 2008):
 tell your parents about your friend and the man. the police will still arrest him if they find anything even if he used to be a police man too
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni am actually 16 and my friend is only 15, my profile age is wrong. i was thinking of calling the police but the man knows they stole and the sickest thing is he used to be a police man so i don't think the police would do anythin. xxxx
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (8 July 2008):
 First things first. Report the old man. What he's doing is unacceptable.
Secondly, talk to your friend one to one about how it worries you and how it can affect her in the long run. What she's doing is wrong and you need to tell her that befre it gets too out of control and she's stealing from you!
If she doesn't listen then tell an adult who is close to her, maybe they can help more.
She needs support from people she cares about so i wouldn't say you should neglect her
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reader, dizzie +, writes (8 July 2008):
hi there you must be so worried about your freind but i agree with the other posts be there for her but dont drown with her. talk to her and her family she may be mad at you but if they dont know whats going on they cant help her, call the alcohol and drug advise line for their nearest drop in center, find out web sites for her and encourage her to use all the facilities that she can but if she wont listen to you im afraid you will have to back away from her. the freinds that she is hanging around with arent a true mate like you they are addicts. they are only using your friend to get what they need. be very careful and if she wont listen to you then im afraid its time to walk away, all the best to the both of you good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): Listen people express drugs as such this big bad thing but see it from your friends point of veiw, she just fancies a laugh and a bit of sniff. Some of my friends take drugs but it doesnt mean i have to do it or stop being friends with them. However wen people get hooked on drugs their personalities change thats something you will either have to accept or just let go...
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (8 July 2008):
 Hi there, Your friend is going into deep water, and she may not be able to swim. I would try to wean myself away from her, slowly but surely. Take your mom's advice, I am glad you told her. See if you can find a good counseling center, and give her the information. Hopefully she will use it, but don't get your hopes up. Drugs are a strong influence over a person, if they get addicted, that's why they call them drugs, they can very well ruin your life and your future, as well as your health. I strongly suggest that you find other friends, who are not into this sort of thing. She could implicate you in something that you had nothing to do with, so be careful, the faster you try to put distance between you the better. Get the information for her, give it to her, and find busy work, if she wants to be with you. You have one life, if you wind up in jail because of her, or she somehow gets you to take drugs, because people love to have company, you could get yourself into
a mess. I can't emphasize it enough, run don't walk from her, I'm sorry, I know you like her, but she is giving in to something that will control her thinking, and the drugs will dictate what she does, that's why they stole the money, they need it to keep up their habit. It's a sad state of affairs. Think hard and try to do what is in your best interest. There are centers that will help a person wean themselves off of drugs, you can also try to find that information and give it to her, she may resent it, but give it to her anyway. She has to be willing to stop, you cannot make her. Trust me, she will try to pull you into the same boat with her, not realizing that the boat has many holes in it, and will eventually sink. Don't go down with her.
Your life is important, so is hers, but you are responsible
first, for yourself. You are only so strong, please don't try to carry her, she will be too heavy. Drugs are toxic, and very addictive. Be good to yourself, and be your own best friend. Take very good care.
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reader, marieclaire +, writes (8 July 2008):
more importantly you should report the old man
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reader, O Connor + ♥, writes (8 July 2008):
sweetheart you have got to talk to your friend! wat she is doing is so dangerous and with coke its easy to just fall deeper and deeper into it. have you talked to her family? she may hate you for it, but they need to know so that they can help her. you need to put it frankly for her - does she really wanna turn into a robbing junkie?
like i said, you need to talk to her family and get them to help you and her.
there is a website that you can visit for ppl with drug problems and who have friends like yours. talktofrank.com
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