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male
age
18-21,
anonymous
writes:Hello,I've started to notice a common trend in my girl issues in that I am really shy and think way too much around girls that I like. I was in a 2 year relationship that ended about a year ago, and ever since I've found it near impossible to get close to anyone else because I am so shy. Thing is, I have loads of girl mates (probably more than guys), and am myself around them the whole time, and have been since I met them. However, when it comes to someone who I'm attracted to, and like, I literally don't know what to do. I'm a naturally hyper and energetic person, but around girls I like, I become quiet and ridiculously shy, and then think about their reactions to anything I do for like the next few days. It seems like the kind've thing that happens to a 14 year old, but I'm nearly 20, and its still happening even though I was in a long term relationship, and have loads of close girl friends!Help!
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reader, enjoimx  +, writes (12 April 2009):
 Read The Game by neill strauss for some tips on opening up your personality and approaching girls. When it comes to breaking out of your shell, you can either be a natural (alpha male) which all the girls are attracted to, or you can be a scientist about it and outsmart the alpha male through various techniques. The quick and easy advice if you dont want to read the book, (and this helped me meet a great girl by the way who i dated for a year): Actively approach many girls over and over with pre-canned lines and flirty stories and dont be alarmed as you get shut down OVER AND OVER. This is the learning process, getting shut down and embarrassed many times before you finally start doing things right, and the girls actually start responding favorably. Dont be afraid to make a fool of yourself.
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