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writes:okay I'm 16 and i have never had a problem with a guy liking me or noticing me because im really pretty my problem is that im really rude and most of the time its not on purpose and idk what to do plus im scared to do anything like even make out ! i feel like a loser and i just want to know what should i do i don't even know how to make out ! ughhh someone help me feel not so lame !! Reply to this Question
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reader, Maria-consuela  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 Maybe your problem is that you have failed to recognize that while good looks may get you in the door almost everywhere they rarely create a lasting relationship. Starting developing othersides of your personality, your intellect, sense of humour - stop focusing on superficial things.
If you treat people poorly, why would you expect them to give you respect in return. Beauty only lasts so long, and developing yourself internally will ensure that you will create longer bonds. Recognizing that you are rude is only the first part of the equation.
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reader, UnderageMonstrosity  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 Woah, what a title "I'm really pretty...." Well 'cuse me, but looks have nothing to do with, or you've gotten so self absorbed in yourself, you haven't EARNT what you've ever gotten.
I'm guessing the girls at school think you're a barbie? Hell I would. The question as everyone thinks is unknown towards making out? If you don't want to, than don't that's pretty simple, don't get pressured into anything, that's always important, to being rude? Think before you speak or do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2010): lol like Jmtmj said, I don't really know what the question is but, if you recognize that you're a rude person, then stop being rude. Don't talk or act without taking a split second to think, and you might be able to restrain yourself from saying or doing stuff you regret. If you're scared to, then don't make out. Just because you're hanging out with a boy doesn't mean you have to do anything with them. Not making out or doing something with them doesn't make you a loser or lame--if you did do stuff with every boy you hung out with, then you would be something like a slut, which I'm sure you don't want to be. Don't worry about not knowing how to make out. Once you've starting going out with a boy you actually like and feel comfortable with, whatever you do together should feel natural and right--just go with the flow and do as much as you feel comfortable with doing; don't let him force you to do anything. Just be yourself, grow to make yourself a better person if you think you have faults, and don't force yourself to do things just because you think you should be doing them. Take care of yourself and make good decisions.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (10 October 2010):
 What exactly is the question?
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