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I'm pregnant with my brother and need to tell my family.

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Question - (23 December 2008) 18 Answers - (Newest, 28 May 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My brother is really cute and I have been havng sex with him. One time, we had too much to drink and we kinda forgot the condom. Now I am pregnant and my brother and family don't know. I am really scared and don't know how I'm gonna tell my family I am having this relationship and that I am pregnant.

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A male reader, hannibalbrown United States +, writes (28 May 2009):

hannibalbrown agony auntPS I would love to see some Baby Pictures:) good luck to the both of you.

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A male reader, Main Man United Kingdom +, writes (30 April 2009):

Main Man agony auntBeing drunk is no excuse for fogetting to a condom even if have regular sex with your brother. You should tell that your pregnant with his child if he feels the same way about you has you do for him. Told tell your family yet but both should leave home and live somewhere your not known and live as a normal couple. Then your parents also tell them not to find has your both happy and in love.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009):

umm that is really crazy...and why on earth would both brother and sister do something like that? so irresponsible..

and is it really blood related, even if not..it is still wrong.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009):

Wow, you really are in a tight spot here. I would not pay any real attention to those posters urging you to get 'help' just because your relationship was with your brother. There are many people who have had incestuous relationships, myself included, except in my case I fell in love with my dad.

In your shoes I would seriously consider having an abortion, because even if the child is born healthy (and there is no guarantee of that) the child will have to live with the stigma of being inbred. Even if you choose not to tell the child until he or she is older, it could cause a serious problem and it literally does have the power to tear your family apart.

As you know already, being in an incestuous relationship means living a life of secrets. Are you and your brother in it for the long haul? You really do need to think about where this relationship is going, because certain personal sacrifices have to be made in order to keep this going in the long term. You will know in your heart whether staying with your brother is the right path for you or not.

I will stress here that if you do choose to continue this relationship, you really do need to pay better attention to contraceptives. Going on the pill or the contraceptive injection are both good options at this point. Whatever you do, don't tell your folks about you and your brother, and doubly don't tell them you got pregnant by him. As another poster said, saying you got drunk and slept with a random guy might make you look like a slut, but you won't be arrested for it. Your family might be mad with you, but not half as mad as they would be if they discovered the incest.

Honey, if you ever need to talk to me or other people who have experiences with incest without the judgement from people who just don't get it, then my door is always open

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A male reader, roadman United Kingdom +, writes (31 December 2008):

roadman agony auntSee a Dr. and flush the egg down the bog..There could be to many complex issues if this baby born..

Hoax or not it has been known!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008):

you need to tell your brother

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A male reader, Arianz Bangladesh +, writes (25 December 2008):

Arianz agony auntDear

1st: I think u should talk to ur brother about this metter cause u both involved. He is ur brother so it will be a wired situation for ur family to have this baby. So don't tell anyone about this.

2nd: Go to doctor for abortion this baby cause this can be a cause of HELL LIFE.

3rd: After recover from problem u can cosult with metal health doctor. cause sex attraction for own brother is not a good sign.

4th: Try to find some one else for relationship.

So get ready for a hard exam in life.

Best of luck

take care

arianz

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008):

PS: I suggest you don't tell either your family or your brother until you seek some advice from your doctor. There may be no need to tell them anything at all... There will be no happy families, you and your brother will not be allowed to live together and raise this child.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008):

It is illegal to have sex with your brother in Britain, this is incest. Your child may be deformed, but they could be perfectly aright. You must not have sex with your brother again, if anyone finds out you could be arrested by the police.

Please contact your GP immediately, they will need to monitor you carefully throughout your pregnancy. They can also help you to consider adoption or abortion if this is suitable for you. Everything you say to your doctor is confidential, your doctor has taken an oath to keep your secrets safe. Please make an appointment to see your doctor today and get proper advice about either ending the pregnancy, or having the baby and dealing with any problems that might occur. Don't worry, there are people that have done the same thing as you, the doctors will understand and they will help you without passing any judgement at all..

Don't leave it and hope it will go away, you need to see a doctor as soon as possible. But like others, I can't help feeling that this is a hoax, a fantasy for somebody who has too much time on their hands.

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (24 December 2008):

If you will not consider abortion then tell your brother in private but tell him that it's over between you and will never happen again.

Then tell your family that you went out, got very drunk, had sex with a guy who you don't know and don't know his name and now you are pregnant. Tell them you have no way of tracing the father.

Never tell anyone who the father is.

Do not have sex with your brother.

This way you will look like a slut but not get arrested for incest which is illegal and very wrong.

Good Luck!! xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008):

Sorry, but that's just wrong, and there's a high chance your baby will be deformed due to the incest.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008):

IS THIS A HOAX?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008):

You HAVE to tell your brother that you are pregnant. Maybe together you can scrape up enough money to have an abortion. You probably shouldn't tell your parents anything about it though, because THEY WILL FREAK OUT!!!!

Keep this a secret from everyone but your brother. The two of you need to deal with this and not get anyone else in the family involved. Post back here to let us know if these replies have been helpful, and to let us know what you decided to do.

Also, why did you have sex with your brother? And how long have you been having a sexual relationship with him?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008):

This sounds lke some kind of hoax queastion...but if it is real then i suggest you stop and actually realise the insanity that is this relationship. I would suggest you talk to ur bro and stop having sex FOREVER! also in terms of the baby i think it would be cruel to bring a baby into the world like this...i suggest an abortion. A baby by siblings is prone to many genetic diseases not to mention the psychological problems it may face. I think if you do these things then the family doesn't have to know as telling them something like this may cause huge stress on the family and make things very awkward for a long time!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008):

Is this a joke....I suggest you start reading the bible for guidance on how you should be living...this is so wrong!

What is the actual question????

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A female reader, SoftlyCaress  +, writes (23 December 2008):

SoftlyCaress agony auntYou Need To Talk to someone in Mental Health this isnt natural no matter how cute or sexy your brother is incest is a horrible thing .. And to bring a baby into the world who was from a relationship of incest is even worse they baby could have so many problems .you Need to really seek some professional advice ....

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A female reader, ilovemb United Kingdom +, writes (23 December 2008):

ilovemb agony auntwell

tell ur brother! then u can tell that u were really drunk but ur hormones are really spazzed up and u cant help feeling this way and so nothing u can do is going to change that!

personally i would have and abortion because the child may not be healthy either pysically or mentally. and if u do do that then u dont HAVE to tell them!

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A female reader, hbarcume United States +, writes (23 December 2008):

First and for most you REALLY need to talk to someone. A proffesional I mean. There is NOTHING natural or normal with sleeping with your brother, no matter how "cute" he is. A child concieved of two parents who are genetically related is at risk for numerous health problems. You may be able to clesr things up without telling your whole family. But sweetie you need a pro.

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