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writes:my bf and i have been together for over 5 years and have a son together. i found out recently that i'm pregnant again and when i tell him he says he can't handle that right now. when i ask about marriage he says not to rush him.he lives with me and i don't want another baby out of wedlock. he has the comforts of marriage without being married what can i do to make him marry me and change his attitude toward this new baby who he was all for, and now is not? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2007): its seems youve picked one of those guys who like to keep their head in the sand and hide from commitment.
if hes going to play with fire and be with you for 5 years and father 2 children you have every right to want marriage and commitment and a future. he should step up to the plate that if hes going to father children hes going to have to commit his future to a family life.
theres no show fire way to make him do this other than stark reality. hes an adult now, if he can play the games to make the kids he can play the games to look after them too.
hope this helps
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (18 January 2007):
 About marriage: He's been living for 5 years with you and he doesn't want you to rush him, even though you already have one child and another one is on the way. It seems to me that this guy does not intend to get married in the next couple of years. And I don't think there's any way to force a man to get married. If you want to get married, then you should probably find another partner. But here's a question for you though: Why is it so important for you to get married?
About the child itself: Your partner seems not to happy about having the kid, but what about you? Are you looking forwards to having another child?
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