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I'm pregnant and he cheated on me!

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Question - (19 July 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 20 July 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *abybutton writes:

Iv been with my fella for 2years now! We planned to have a baby we were engaged it didn't seem to happen tho so we had a baby¤making cooling off time. Then I began to feel odd argumentative sick ect he suspected I was pregnant and bought me a test then went back out I did the test and it was possative I rang him and he freaked out ie went out on a weekend bender. Iv recently lurnd he cheated I got him to confess and its distroyed us since. He took this woman out for 2 days then returnd home claoiming he wasn't thinking right. Everyone told me to get an abortion but I belive to be given a baby is a blessing as some can't have children iim terafied of being a single parent and being labeld I'm fighting to keep us together but I'm falling out of love he is making this the worst prgnancy ever he never hit me but recently put his hands on me and put his hands on my throat. What the hell do I do what's the right thing to do x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010):

I am sorry that you are in this situation.

Normally I recommend that you do what feels best for you and not tell you what to do but you need to get away from this guy - this is a dangerous situation for you. You need to start focusing on taking care of yourself and your baby.

As for the people who are telling you to get an abortion DO NOT LISTEN TO THEM. I am not saying that it's not an option I'm just saying that you should make the decision based on what YOU want and not what everyone else tells you to do, don't let them make the decision for you.

Being a single teenage mom can seem scary and overwhelming and I know that you are worried about being labelled but there are a lot of girls who are in the same situation and come out fine. You have the inner strength to do whatever it is that feels right for you.

There are a lot of options on how to deal with the pregnancy. Make sure you follow what feels best for you, and not what everyone else thinks.

Just please, for your safety and the safety of the baby stay away from that guy. He's dangerous.

All the best

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010):

get away from this guy. Do not have the baby. Get an abortion. If he shows anger towards you now. You can't imagine how much stress a baby causes in a relationship. He will be abusive later if he is showing signs now. It's apparent that he doesn't want to make things work with you by cheating. Why presure him with a baby to stay with you.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010):

He's being physically violent. Get away from him as soon as possible. Break off the engagement. If you need to, file a restraining order. There is no way it is healthy for you to be with this man if he is violent and hurting you. This is also no environment in which to raise a baby.

I understand that you fear the label of being a single parent. But honestly, this was not your intention in the first place. The baby was conceived while you two were engaged and in love. Bad things happened, and you saw your fiance for who he really is.

I can't advise you as to what to do with your baby, but there are many options available, including abortion, adoption or keeping him or her. You'll have to examine your financial and emotional statuses before you can decide what to do about the baby.

But definitely get away from that man for good.

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