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writes:dear cupid and readers , my ex boyfriend messaged me that he missed me and how we should catch up. Should i.?? Our Realationship didnt work out he had jeleousy issues. So ive managed to push him away for a whole year, and being single at first was hard i missed him . Over time i realized i dont really feel anything any more, it feels great to say im over him , i still care about him so i feel bad not seeing him ,
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reader, Ayan Ganguly  +, writes (13 June 2012):
 IT's something that only you can answer because you are the one who'll be living with or without him..i would suggest if you still care for him give it a try afterall you can forgive one mistake in a relationship...all the best hope everything works out the way you would like..
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (13 June 2012):
 I wouldn't "catch up" with him. I don't see the point. It was a hard break up for you, and you are now feeling over him. The thing is, meeting up with someone you used to care for a lot can rip up in the emotions.
Also if you do met up you might "ruin" all the hard work it took to move on from him.
HE wasn't a keeper, that is why you dropped him. So really what would be the point in meeting him?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 June 2012):
 If you still care and you are worried then you are not ready to see him.
I had lunch with my ex husband yesterday... hugged him hello saw him, had lunch, talked, caught up... said goodbye and went on my way...
no feelings...
no sorrow
no hope of reconciliation
if you can do that then by all means meet in a public place and catch up
if you harbor even a glimmer of getting back together then don't meet him.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (13 June 2012):
 "Sounds" to me like he's got you tethered with a very thin string.... but that YOU aren't ready to break that tether and get on with your life.....
You've described a very clear choice, that you face.... but that decision is your's and your's only.....
Good luck...
P.S. I recommend that you sever the tether.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2012): *acre = care
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2012): If you still acre about him you're not over him. What benefit will it have for you that outweighs the risk of your feelings coming back?
Seriously, would you rather feel bad for not seeing him or feel bad because all your feelings came back because you decided to "catch up".
I say leave dead dogs lie OP. It took you a long while to get over him, it was hard as hell and now you want to risk all that again?
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