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I'm obsessed with my married boss, what should I do?

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Question - (2 April 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 5 April 2008)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I really like this boss of mine i have been obssessed over him for the past 3months but he never said anything n but always gave me this really admiring look n finally last saturday i finally asked him wat was goining on in his mind.

Well it was quite bit but i left work didnt ask for his number and the biggist problem is that he is married n has a sixteen year old daughter. I'm just so obssessed over him and he told me he likes me too.

But anyways i gave him my number that same night but he hasnt called me is he shy or what i dont know.He said he wants to get to know me etc.I let all this go on cuz my work timings were gona change but now m bak to my old time which i have to c him so i dont knw wats going on in his mind..what should I do?

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A female reader, Dawnie United Kingdom +, writes (5 April 2008):

Dawnie agony auntHow would you feel if one day you were happily married with kids and then your beloved husband had an affair? Put yourself in that position, just imagine the pain of finding out the man you love was having sex with someone else, that thought alone should be enough to stop you doing the dirty on this man's wife.

There are plenty of single fellas out there to choose, leave the married ones alone.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008):

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well he never called me for the two days so i waited till the day he was working cuz it was bothering wat was going on in his mind...well i called n told him tat it wud be wierd tat wat we talked abt between us will b weird working together n he said dont worry there is nothing between us n i cant hurt u or my family n which really has made me respect him more n like him more...well i saw him today after sat n just wanted to c if he still has tat look in his eyes n he did n i like him alot to let go of tat moment i think if i let few weeks go n just look at each other like before mayb he mite change his mind...after all its not his fault or mine tat he is married i just dnt noe wats the rite way 4 me to have him approach me again n not b shy or afrai???

god i like him sooooooooooooooooo much

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008):

Please stop it immdiately. No obsession is too great for us to control.

there are two major issues here. First he is married and second he is your boss. thats as far as it goes!

If u cant get over him, try to get another job. ur reputation and self-esteem and pride and career is not worth jeopardizing!

Trust me. it might not be what u want to hear but we all sometimes have to face those ugly ugly truths... im only saying this because i got myself into a similar situation and i can kick myself for it because i usually dont do such things, but i too fell for someone who was married and my boss. he didnt love me and that's was not what i needed or wanted, only i happened to fall in love.

Honey, face it. He doesnt love you, he lvoes his wife and his daughter. That is as it should be. more than that we need to stand together as women. think about the utter devistation it would cause his wife should she find out. Would u like that to happen to your marriage one day?

If he hasnt called u, he's not interested. sweety, he may also be leering u into a relationship by insinuation meaning u would have no proof should things not work out and should he turn against u at work. that means u couldnt take him up for harrassment should it get to that point. worst of all is should he pledge undying love, u could never hold him to it because he is already committed.

Here are some famous words from a famous song, "...don't be a fool when love really don't love you..."

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