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I'm not very confident but think he likes me. What should I do?

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Question - (31 May 2015) 1 Answers - (Newest, 27 June 2015)
A female United Kingdom age 18-21, *askOn writes:

I've liked this guy for a while now and I think he's liked me even before I started to like him (romantically, I've always liked him as a person since I've met him). But the thing is, I don't actually know if he likes me. What should I even do about it because I don’t want to lose him?

The first time we met was at the beginning of high school. We had a lot of classes together and we had loads of mutual friends so we often talked. At the time, I had no feelings for him at all, I just thought of him as a classmate and a nice guy who was a friend. Looking back now, it was about this time that I think he started liking me.

Think of that really loud funny kid who was smart and just happened not to be completely hideous. That was me. I was easy to get along with and people knew who I was. Plus I was in all of the higher classes with him and let's just say that I may be in love with my appearance. I think that was kind of the reason he liked me. He doesn't talk very much so me being louder and fun to talk to was appealing to him.

Eventually, I started to notice him more and when a friend of mine said she liked him, I was gutted. I figured that I started liking him and then it went downhill. I found it hard to talk to him and got really awkward. I hadn't changed in front of everyone else but when it was just us I got nervous and felt like I was going to say the wrong thing. Because of this, our conversations face to face decreased.

But then we started texting and it was easier for me. I had the time to think through what I was going to reply with. However, sometimes he doesn’t reply although I know he’s seen the text. The next day he may bring it up when he comes to talk to me.

I just feel that he likes me because he does the stupidest things like come up to me to ask random questions that he randomly knows the answers to (as if he’s trying to show me how smart he is) or involve me in something that has nothing to do with me. I catch him looking at me sometimes and I've noticed that he often seems to get jealous when I'm talking to other guys (who really are just friends). Some of his friends have even asked me repeatedly if I like him.

He just keeps giving me these mixed signals; sometimes he likes me, other times it's like he’s avoiding me. But high school’s almost over and although we’re likely to both stay for sixth form, I don’t want him to meet someone new and forget me. I'm not very confident so what should I do?

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A female reader, Lulule  United States +, writes (27 June 2015):

You're intuitive feeling is probably correct. You will definitely lose him if you don't test out your hypothesis, so really, what do you gain by sitting around guessing? Go find out! There's always a chance the feeling will not be mutual, but there's a big chance they will.

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