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I'm not sure if I should log onto the dating site?

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Question - (4 October 2015) 5 Answers - (Newest, 5 October 2015)
A male United Kingdom age , *ecent man writes:

Hello I have subscribed to a dating site for 1 month, and have agreed , to meet a woman for a date , she has said , we can meet , when she is back from holiday in 2 weeks . Is it alright though, if I continue going on the site , to look for other dates while waiting during the 2 weeks, in case she/ I changed are minds ? Because I don,t want to waste half of the month,s membership, also if I was online/logged in and I saw that she was as well , I could wonder why she is onine ?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2015):

I met my boyfriend on a dating site and I know that he went on dates with other people after we met and I did the same. I think that most people understand that everybody else on the site will be meeting and dating other people until they meet the right one.

I went out on about three dates with my boyfriend before we decided to be in a relationship. Then we both got rid of the dating site. I didn't meet up for dates for sex, I don't like that. But I think it's fine when people go out for a drink or something.

Personally I think everybody who signs up for dating sites understand that the people they talk to will be talking to a lot of other people while they are on there. The one I was on shows you who has logged on to it in the past day or week so you when I logged on I could see that my boyfriend as still going on there quite regularly before we made it official. Does this site let you see that? You could maybe work out if she is still having a look on there.

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A male reader, decent man United Kingdom +, writes (5 October 2015):

decent man is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thank you for your answer,s i,ll bear them in mind

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A female reader, Ivyblue Australia +, writes (5 October 2015):

Ivyblue agony auntMeeting a woman and dating a woman are not the same thing. Dating sites,in my opinion, are very much a try before you buy kind of thing. In no way am I suggesting it is ok for people to play people, rather you are not yet committed to anything other than being up front and honest that you are open to meeting other ladies and a keeping your options open. Should it become more exclusive then logging on is a definite no no.

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A male reader, BE125 United States +, writes (5 October 2015):

This is an interesting question. I think it depends on if you think she will actually do what she says and actually meet you when she gets back. If you believe she will do as she says, then out of respect for her, hold off on scheduling other dates. If you think she is stalling or is unreliable, then go,ahead and proceed with trying to find someone else. So much of your question depends on how you feel about her and whether you think she is a reliable person. If you think she is a reliable person, wait for her. I believe it's the right thing to do.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (5 October 2015):

Honeypie agony auntI guess it depends whether you are OK with dating several people at the same time.

This lady that you have met and set up a date with, MIGHT not be a good fit when you met in person, so sitting on your hand and waiting for her to come back might be a little bit wasteful.

Personally, I'd date ONE person at a time. But I also understand that you PAID money to meet potential dates so sitting idle might not sit right with you.

Either way, you don't really know this lady, you don't know if you are a match, if she actually still wants to met you after her vacation etc. So I'd say, why not log on and see what other options you have?

One thing that I think is a HUGE no-no are those people who SLEEP with several people at the same time, while "looking" for a date/partner.

Going out to a dinner or an event is not quite the same as sleeping with someone.

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