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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I was dating a guy and I got completely involved in him. We started dating in 2011. It was a long distance relationship. In the beginning I thought it would not work but I have no idea how hard I fall for him as the time passed by. We used to talk on phone and that usuall texting all day and night got me attached to him. I look pretty enough and the didn't look that good,yet I loved him with my whole heart. He also visited my city when he was doing his internship down in south. The way he held me,kissed me got me really emotionally attached to him. By the end of 2013 we were not the same as before due to family issues. My family got to know about him and told me to cut off everything with him. I didn't talk to him for 3 months maybe and one day suddenly I got an email from some unknown person who was claiming to be my ex boyfriends friend and he had sent me the photographs of my ex with some other girl. They seemed to be very much into each other(hugs and kissing) . That stranger told me they were dating. I was astonished and called one of his friend and told him to tell my ex to stop sending me texts and asking me to talk to him when I wasn't talking to him for past 3months. He still used to text me claiming he loves me and wanted back, but deep inside and apart from my knowledge he was having fun with other girl. I was completely shattered. His friend told me that he was dating a girl because he wanted to move on and forget about you. Then why the hell was he stalking me and filling my feeds with his texts all this while. I called my ex and told him to not to bother me anymore when all he was doing was cheating on me behind my back. I changed my number since then. It's been more then a year we were not in contact,suddenly he texted me on facebook saying he loves me and stuff. I ignored as I am still annoyed at him for what he has done to me. My life is a mess. I get so many good proposals but I refuse them all just because I'm not yet over him. In trying my hard but I'm unable to forget him. Please tell me what should I do? Part of me wants to forgive him and love him like I did before, but part of me is still mad over him and don't want him in my life. Please give your suggestion?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (5 June 2015):
 Were you 14 when you started talking to him online? I ask because you say you started dating in 2011 and your age listed now is 18-21. So back then you ere 14-17.
You failed to tell your family you were dating this guy for 2 years. So effectively you lied to the people who are responsible for your well-being. Not very adult of you to do....
What sort of proposals are you getting now? The word "proposal" here in the US means the person who is making the proposal is asking you to marry him.
If you are 18-21 and this stuck on a guy who lied to you and you say your life is a mess, I would advise you to turn off your computer. Go get into some real life activities, classes like yoga or languages or art, or martial arts, or literature or anything that doesn't involve waiting for "proposals" from men you don't know all that well. Live in the real world for 6 months, then reassess and come back and see how things are going for you.
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