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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I dated my ex girlfriend for over two years. We began dating in grade 11 and she was my high school sweetheart (prom date, etc.). I took a year off after high school while she went to university about an hour and a half away. We made it until about January when she broke things off (after acting distant for a month or two) because the "spark" was gone. There was no other guy, but it was likely just because she wanted to experience uni life single or whatever. I do see a future with this girl but I think we both need to go experience being an individual for a couple of years (we are both each others first partners). I treated her perfect...we never fought, I was the perfect boyfriend and never said a mean thing to her even during the break up. I decided on no contact after the breakup which lasted for about 5 weeks before I happened to run into her at my work while she was home for the weekend. She balled her eyes out in my arms and said she missed me so much (but didn't ask for me back) and I said I hope we can be friends eventually and that who knows if we will rekindle a relationship in the future. I was very supportive. Did I ruin the whole "hard to get" no contact thing? Will this ruin my chances of being with her in a couple years? I just figured I'd tell her I'm here for her as a friend and care about her well we both do our own thing for now. It just felt right. Most board I've read would say that I should of acted like I didn't care when she cried in my arms and that I should of told her I'm over it and stuff, but I'm not so why lie? I told her i'd missed her to, I told her I care about her still, and I told her I'll be here as a friend and that we will maybe have something in the future. Is this ok?
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