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I'm modest and reserved but seem to attract guys who only want sex

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Question - (23 July 2013) 4 Answers - (Newest, 1 August 2013)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I seem to be attracting the wrong type of men and I have no Idea why ? I wonder if Im doing something wrong ?

I have never been the type of woman to expose her body, I dress pretty classy, I wear clothes that accentuate my curbs, and may show a peak of cleavage but never in a distasteful way.

I have guy friends who tend to date women for one purpose, but these type of women are so easy to give it up, they show all kind of skin and have no self respect.

I am the total opposite. I am virgin, never had sex, I never really show any skin, I don't even wear shorts because it makes me uncomfortable showing that much. I donot do drugs or drink and I go too church often. I tell men this before I even enter a relationship with them.

But the only men that ever seem to want me are players, drug addicts, and men that want sex. Every guy I've dated tell me they respect that and they agree with my values but I always end up finding out they do the very things I hate and want me for sex.

WHy am I attracting these type of men. All the good men act like im invisible . I donot throw myself out there, Im very reserved for the most part. Why am I being treated like some $2 whore?

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A female reader, kellyO United Kingdom +, writes (1 August 2013):

kellyO agony auntYes, some guys will lie in the beginning or agree with everything you are just because they want you. You are doing the smart thing but waiting and getting to know them, cos their true nature will always come out with time. Don't worry be patience you will find the right guy and don't let anyone pressurize you into anything you don't want to do.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2013):

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They tell me that they share my values, that sex should come at the right time, that they donot do drugs when I find out otherwise. things like that.

And I know they only want sex because they pressure me into having it and when I donot, that's when things go wrong. YOu know when someone is using you.

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A female reader, kellyO United Kingdom +, writes (23 July 2013):

kellyO agony auntHi Anom,

Yes this i have heard before from friends. You are not doing anything wrong and you should continue to hold on to your values but you need to understand that there are lots of guys that are impatience and out for sex so don't take it the wrong way that they see you as whore and don't let them pressurize you into doing what you don't want. You will find someone in time who has the same values as you and who you naturally want to be with.

You need to be patient my dear!

Goodluck

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A female reader, Pooki__11 Australia +, writes (23 July 2013):

I have exactly the same problems. Sucks doesn't it? And I can't work out what I am doing wrong either. I dont think Im giving off the wrong vibes.

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