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I’m missing him a lot!.Do I wait and hope that he misses me enough to get in touch?

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Question - (16 February 2006) 1 Answers - (Newest, 17 February 2006)
A female , anonymous writes:

This guy and I have been close friends for just under 2 months but known each other for years. I am feeling confused by mixed signals he is giving me regarding whether he wants more or not and I think he is feeling the same way about me. We are both shy and sensitive so communicate by text more. I loved him being attentive - he’d text me every day, up to 4 times a day, but on this occasion he hasn’t texted me since day before Valentines which is totally unlike him. I think I have done something wrong. One evening I told him I couldn’t see him as I was genuinely very tired and thought I wouldn’t be much company for him that evening. Everything was fine, although I think behind his joke he thought I didn’t want to see him. Anyway, we had a great time on Sunday. He lingeringly touched my arm which gave me the impression that he is interested in being more than friends; I enjoyed this and didn’t push him away. He spent time trying to impress me. When he dropped me off, I left quickly and I wondered if he thought I was giving him the brush-off. It was because I’m confused at the moment: I care about him and about my feelings so I don’t want to rush into anything. How do I give him a signal that I am interested in him as serious boyfriend material?

Next day he sent me a text thanking me for an enjoyable evening. I returned one saying same with a playful comment to a question that he asked me (nothing sexual or offensive at all; just something you might say to be playful with a friend) - and I’ve heard nothing from him since. I’ve since gathered that a previous girlfriend messed him around alot so I wonder if this playful comment of mine has been misconstrued as me messing him around. I’d never want to do anything to hurt his feelings. I wonder if I have to keep things easy to understand - eg. no playfulness? I thought men liked women who are a challenge with an air of mystery about them, who aren’t easy but that are also playful - I think all I’ve done is driven him away. I want him to see me as a warm, loving, fun and interesting lady; one that he wants to be around.

Anyway, sent him an text today asking how he is, what he’s up to, telling him what I’m up to - still nothing. I have put the ball in his court so now it is up to him. I don’t want to send him another text (that will look desperate/clingy) unless I hear from him. So, guys, I want opinions: does he just want to be just friends with me, a one-night stand or a relationship with me? Family members have said he is really into me. Is he giving me a taste of my own medicine? Is he confused of his feelings for me? I need help understanding his behaviour and if/what the next step is? If I have blown it, can anyone give me a clue as to what I’ve done wrong? Do I just hope now that he misses me enough to contact me again? I’m missing him lots.

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A female reader, Creampuff +, writes (17 February 2006):

Creampuff agony auntYou wont know untill you ask him, maybe he feels like you but is afraid he's got your signals wrong to. Be bold send him a text tell him how u feel tell him ur missing him and want to c him again soon. Try to make some plans call him if he isnt replying to ur txts even if to just say ur worried coz u aint herd from him.

Basicall i think you should tell him how u feel and just hope he feels the same and if he does Gr8 if not im sure u guys can still be friends

Go for it!

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