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writes:I love my boyfriend so much but it means lying to my parents i hate lying to them. if they find out i will not be allowed to see him. At 14 they dont approve and see me as a child still. i want to see him still, but i want the respect of my loving parents. any advice. thank you very much :) Reply to this Question
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reader, Odds  +, writes (5 July 2010):
 I'll assume he's your age for this post. If he's older (17+), then your parents are right and you should not be with him.
If he's your age, your parents concern is that you will fool around and get pregnant. What evidence do they have that you are capable of being an adult, either through abstinence or through proper use of birth control?
At 14, you *are* still a child. Or perhaps a woman-in-training. Have they met him? Have they spent time with him? Ask if you can invite him to a family dinner and let them get to know him.
If they disapprove, they're probably right about him, and he will not be a good boyfriend no matter how much you like him. Better to stick with your family than some guy. At your age, it's not really love, but infatuation.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (5 July 2010):
 well if you want respect from your parents you need to give them the respect. If you want them to treat you not like a child, then you need to stop lying to them like a child would do.
I don't mean to be harsh, but this will help you with your parents and pretty soon they'll allow you to date.
but i know you don't want to lose your boyfriend, how about sitting down with your parents and asking them if he can come over so they can get to know him? If they aren't for this then ask them why they don't like him and what you can do to show them that you are mature enough to have a boyfriend.
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