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female
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36-40,
*eforu
writes:So i recently posted a note saying i was in love with my best friend who is straight. Things have changed slightly and she has been wanting to hang out a lot more. Everyday since about 3 months ago i have been wakimng up to her text messages and going to sleep after talkin to her or textin her or even hanging out with her. I have great days when my day starts with her. She has been coming over a lot lately just to hang out and has actually made an effort. But its more of a friends effort i think. Yesterday we went to eat with my parents and grab a drink and we started talkin about our gay friends we have (I haven't come out yet) she mentioned that she had a hard time handling them after awhile. I chimed in and said the boys get on my nerves a little because of the way they have acted with their drama lately but im totally fine with the girls. She then said with a laugh i cant handle either of them. I totally love my friends boys or girls and dont give a rats behind who they are with, when they are with them, or where, it doesn't bother me. But the fact that she said that made me think maybe that is the reason she doesnt hang out with that certain crowd anymore. Im afraid to keep devoting my time and effort to her if she is homophobic. I really dont believe she is if shes made out with another girl which happens to be a lesbian and my best friend. I'm worried should I just give up on her and keep it as friends or should I keep trying and wait for her to figure things out. We are best friends and i cant tell her i am a lesbian because I am terrified shes going to ditch me like the others and i really dont think i can handle that if she does. I am lost at what to do here? Leave it alone and move on to someone else or keep doin like im doing since she seems to be wanting to hang out more? Im lost please help me.....
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reader, sxcbabiegal  +, writes (20 July 2007):
 if your friend can't except who you really are then she isn't really your friend i am bisexaul myself and when i told all my friends how i felt they all excepted it so now i know who my true friends are.coming out into the open about your sexaulity will make you see who are your real friends and whos jst there for a ride some of my friends are a little homophobic BUT they'd never say anything to hurt me or embarress me about my sexaulity.. let your friend know this that if she is your real friend she would stick by you no matter what! and if she doesnt then hunny she aint worth it.. let me know how it works out xxx jodie xxx
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