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writes: Me and my boyfriend are dating again. We broke up 3 times before... 2 of the times because he wasn't ready to have a relationship due to the fact he had literally broken up with his ex a couple of days before we had started dating. The third time was due to the fact I was moving. I found out after that I was pregnant and he flipped on me and said he wanted me to get an abortion (which I did) but if I didn't he wouldn't be there for me, only the child. Anyways I moved back recently and we talked and are now back together. He says he wants to settle down with me and everything but I rarely get to see him. He's always out with his friends or sleeping but when we're together it's amazing. I'm just getting really fed up that I don't get that much attention and I sort of feel like a last resort. What should I do?
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 I agree with jaxwardle- you and your partner need to discuss the abortion as it may be playing a part in your guy's behaviour. Then you need to chat about how you feel about how he is behaving and how its hurting you. You both have been through something that is very tough even if you both don't realise it. An abortion affects everybody in different ways and you may not have realised how you would feel now.
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reader, jaxwardle86 +, writes (14 July 2007):
 I think before you can consider having a proper relationship with this man you need to realize how you feel about the abortion. You don't mention how it made you feel and I don't think you've had enough time for it to sink in properly. It can take some people to realize what they are feeling before they even go through it but others can take months and once it hits home it really does come down on you with a ton of bricks . If the feelings aren't dealt with now they can come back to haunt you in a few months time. I also think this man is no good for you but you and you only can stop that. What is certainly clear to me is you need deal with yourself and your emotional problems before thinking about this guy hope I helped Jax xxxxxx
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